with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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I left the office early yesterday because I had absolutely nothing on my desk and have banked overtime from that (not so) lovely tax season I just emerged from. I had some freelance deadlines anyway, and thought it might be nice to bang them out during the day instead of after the kids are in bed, which is right about the time that this early-bird body of mine starts to shut down. Quickly.
I sat down at my kitchen table while my husband threw in a load of laundry, cleaned the bathrooms and then vacuumed the upstairs bedrooms. He is a bit of a clean-freak by nature, yes, but with me working full-time and him working part-time, he’s taken over the bulk of the housework duties in addition to keeping our lawn mowed and planting our garden. He really is Superman.
I know that the situation is not the same for everyone else. In some households the husband is the primary breadwinner and in other households both spouses work full-time. Regardless of your family dynamic, I think we can all agree on the secret to a happy marriage:
Help out with the housework.
A little bit of cleaning can go a long way to a peaceful existence. My husband is arguably a little, um, anal-retentive when it comes to keeping things clean. I know this about him, we joke about it all the time, and I know that if I want to make his day I will do more than what we have agreed on in our current work/life situation.
When he left to pick up the kids from school I closed my laptop. I folded and put away a load of laundry, unloaded the dishwasher and cleaned the kitchen. He hadn’t expected me to do it at all and he was pleasantly surprised upon his return. Sometimes it’s not about keeping score; sometimes it’s just about doing what needs to be done.
How does it work in your house? Are you the one in charge of keeping everything clean, or does that responsibility fall on your spouse’s shoulders? Do you think housework is divided evenly in your home?
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