with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.
This past weekend the sun (FINALLY) shone and I took a good hour or so to sit on the deck and read magazines whilst refusing to feel even a titch guilty about it. While I was flipping through the magazines I came across an interview with David Code, who has written “To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First“. And then yesterday morning on Facebook I saw that our very own Lylah had linked to an article she had written about the same book and author titled, “Are you using kids to escape your marriage?”
I haven’t read his book, but based on the interviews I’ve read and what he’s had to say in them, I do believe that he’s speaking some truth. I talk about Date Nights and their importance quite a lot, but usually from the main angle of keeping your relationship strong and healthy, kids or no kids. But I can speak from my personal experience that the happier my husband and I are, the happier our kids are, and vice versa.
Kids need security and to know that their home base is concrete. As much as my kids squirm when my husband and I are affectionate in front of them, you can tell that they secretly love it. When we go on date nights (or to Vegas) we explain to the kids that we love them immensely but that Mommy and Daddy need time to be just us. They get it, because they have seen the results.
I know that we all lead busy lives. but I’d love to hear from you on this one. Do you put your marriage first? Or your kids? What do you think is the best balance for you?
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