Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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Today, likely as you are reading this, my husband and I are en route on our first! family! vacation! I mean, we’ve done many a trip to visit extended family and have done whirlwind shopping trips to stock up on clothes and such, but this is the first time that the five of us are loading into the van with the sole intent of vacating.
We had planned to rent a hotel in Vancouver for the first leg of our trip, but my Dad and his wife are on holidays themselves and so we have an empty condo at our disposal (YAY!). The second leg of our trip involves a cottage that we’ve rented at Cannon Beach on the Oregon Coast. There will be tourist attractions and hours spent reading on the beach and no household chores to speak of. I’m a little excited, yes.
The logistics of being in Vancouver came up and my husband was willing to use public transit to get ANYWHERE AND EVERYWHERE, whereas I would much rather just drive to Stanley Park instead of dealing with taking the bus.
My husband is the driver 90% of the time whether we are around town, on date nights, on long highway drives. Get us into the city and he would rather walk on hot coals than drive. When it comes to cities like Vancouver, where I lived for six years and head back to annually, driving isn’t stressful to me in the least. I know my way around and it is far easier for me to just drive than to deal with Mr. McStresscase behind the wheel.
How does it work with you? Does it depend on the situation or does one of you drive most of the time?
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Usually, I drive on the highway (Noah gets bored) and he drives in the city. If we’re visiting a new city that we need to navigate? He ALWAYS drives because when I drive and he navigates - that’s how he got that knife stuck in his head.
Jen | July 16th, 2010 at 8:14 am
I let my husband drive whenever we go out. I’d rather relax in the passenger seat and I know he CAN’T relax when someone else is driving (especially me). Hmm, I guess it’s rather old fashioned….
We drive in Vancouver all the time, but I can see how it could intimidate someone from a small town who’s not used to all of that traffic and gridlock. Heck, we moved here from Calgary years ago and we were intimidated by all of the traffic!
Enjoy your holiday!
Procrastamom | July 16th, 2010 at 10:36 am
I drive in town, I’m better at it, we both agree! (talking Washington DC) we live in the burbs. small trips to dinner, etc, we do about equally. ditto long trips we split about evenly. new places, usually he drives and I navigate, I’m the better map reader.
gretchen | July 16th, 2010 at 6:45 pm
I am OK with driving as long as the passenger isn’t on my butt the whole time. I am also OK with being the passenger. I love long highway drives, regardless of who is driving. If it’s in a high-traffic area, the person driving should be the one who best knows his/her way around. And the other person should look out the window and enjoy the scenery, not aggravate the driver.
SKL | July 16th, 2010 at 10:34 pm
Generally, it depends whose car we are taking. More often than not we take his. For the highway, I like to let him drive. There may be some big city Montreal driving this summer! Since I have lived there, I would assume it will be me behind the wheel.
Heather | July 18th, 2010 at 3:22 pm
Matt’s the driver. I don’t like it so much. Actually, I didn’t get my license until I was 24 years old, and only then because I had to.
Danica Grunert | July 19th, 2010 at 5:56 pm