with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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My friend Hillary wrote a funny post yesterday about how she arrived home from a weekend away to discover that her husband had purchased a 52″ television and hung it on their bedroom wall. (Go read it. I’ll wait.)
As you’ll see, the point of her post is not so much about having a television on the wall, but the fact that he made such a large purchase without her knowledge. I read the post to my husband and he (jokingly) told me that he didn’t see a problem with making a purchase that big. I knew he was joking because this is a man who is so frugal that he runs nearly every purchase by me, including whether he should buy a block of cheese if it’s not on sale. I’m not even kidding.
I don’t feel the need to call him about a block of cheese or anything grocery related, really, and he doesn’t expect me to. He knows that I try to stretch our dollars as much as I can and that I keep my eyes open for when our favorites are on sale, etc.
After reading Hillary’s post, I got to thinking about how large a purchase is before we feel that we need to run it by each other. We’re both working right now, have always had a joint account, and both have a handle on where our finances are. We definitely discuss big-ticket items before purchasing them (vehicles (including his TWO snowmobiles), camera equipment (for me), hunting equipment (for him), etc.) If I go clothes shopping I don’t usually call him mid-shop unless I can’t decide between two options.
I guess if I had to put a dollar limit on it, anything over the $100 range is discussed for sure. I may be back at work full-time, but he’s on half-time and his salary is half of what mine is. We have a teeny mortgage, yes, but we also have a nice savings cushion that we’d like to keep intact in the event that anything bad were to happen.
How about you? Do you run larger purchase by each other? Or do you keep your finances separate and do your own thing?
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