At the risk of stating the painfully obvious, my husband and I lead busy lives. I work forty hours per week (plus commuting) and he works thirty hours a week around school hours (drop-off and pick-up and a thousand pieces of paper, oh my!).
We do a pretty good job of communicating throughout the day. I’ll call at lunch to check in and we eat dinner together as a family, though it’s hard to discuss anything other than the necessities what with all of the (poop) jokes and laughter and asking the kids how their day went. We end the day with (you know, and) talking about what we have on our schedules for the following day. While we tend to keep up with the big things (appointments, meetings, etc.) we often don’t have the time (or the energy) to talk about the minutiae of our days.
This past weekend my husband spent some time cleaning out our hot tub, filling it with water and putting the required chemicals in. Last night, after the kids were in bed, we sat in it for a good twenty minutes and just talked. No TV or computers or iPhones to distract us. Just he and I, talking. While we were getting ready for bed we both commented how nice it was to unplug and focus on each other. We definitely need to do that more often.
How about you? Do you make “quiet time” together to just talk? Where do you like to do that?