with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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Some of you who have been reading from the beginning of this here column (2008, baby!) may remember when I talked about the seven days of sex experiment. To sum it up, a pastor had issued a challenge to his congregation to have sex for seven days straight (with their spouses, natch) to increase intimacy.
It works. Trust me on this one.
Another pastor in Florida issued a challenge for his parishioners to have sex for 30 days (or nights) in a row and see what it does to your marriage. (30 days wouldn’t work for me personally, but maybe people have longer cycles than I do?)(TMI?)
This pastor, Paul Wirth of Relevant Church, says his “30-Day Sex Challenge” was one way of combating the 50-percent divorce rate in our country. According to Wirth (who has taken the challenge himself), it’s a way to increase the intimacy, to pay attention to one another and to continue to meet each others needs. RAWR.
Wirth has written a book: 30daysexchallenge: A Journey to Intimacy. He also tells us that 20 million married Americans have sex fewer than 10 times a year. That’s less than once a month. ONCE A MONTH.
That kind of makes me sad. I mean, yes, we are all busy and yes, some of us have a kid (or three!) but if you want your marriage relationship to make it to forever, you need to be connected to your spouse - relationally, emotionally and physically. I’ve personally found that the physical connection makes the emotional and relational aspects happen more easily.
So? How about it? Are you up for a 30 (or 21) day challenge?
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