Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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My husband and I have never been big on celebrating Valentine’s Day, mostly because every day is a day of romance in our house.
I’m totally kidding.
I have to confess that when we were first married, we did have a bit of that feeling. What can I say? We were newlyweds. A bigger part of it, though, is just how commercial everything is. Pay double for flowers, buy a box of chocolates and a $5 card with cheesy words in in. Go out to dinner at a nice restaurant (if you can get a reservation) along with everyone else and pay for a babysitter and, and, and…
On the flip side, I do like that it’s a good reminder for couples to stop their every day lives and remember why you’re with this person in the first place. The days blend into weeks and the weeks blend into months and the next thing you know, you can’t remember the last time that the two of you sat down together and just talked. Plus, putting on a pretty dress and heels is a nice change from the usual jeans/yoga pants wardrobe that many Moms wear around the house.
So, are we going out for Valentine’s Day? No. Mondays are our busiest day of the week between work and external commitments. However. We are in dire need of a date night (it’s been three weeks since our last one) and so I think we’ll get a babysitter this weekend and go out to dinner at our favorite restaurant. I’ll also probably hit up the stores on the 15th and buy a bunch of chocolate for my sweet-toothed husband.
Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Why or why not? If so, what are your plans?
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My husband made reservations for the night of the thirteenth. He also arranged a babysitter. and I didn’t even have to ask. Nice eh?
A couple of years ago I got tired of pouting because he never did anything to celebrate these kinds of things. So I said: LOOK! There are two romantic occasions per year. (Valentines and our anniversary.) Pick one. It’s permanently your responsibility to make arrangements for us to celebrate that day. I will do the other.
It wasn’t a very romantic conversation, but it worked in the long run. He’s done his husbandly duty every Feb 14 since. And it knocked me off my high horse too, because I’ve found I’m scrambling to come up with fun and original anniversary plans every summer. He does just as good a job as I do, if not better.
Danica | February 8th, 2011 at 2:37 pm
We take it turn about to organise something for Valentines Day and our wedding anniversary. This year it is Rob’s turn to do Valentines Day and my turn to do the anniversary. I know he has planning to cook a special candlelit dinner at home on the Monday, and he has the whole day off while I’m in the office to prepare it, so I am looking forward to it a lot!
Other than that, we’ll just exchange cards. We’re not big on the whole commercial (gift) side of Valentines day.
Hannah | February 8th, 2011 at 4:17 pm
We usually just make dinner together on Vday. It used to be a kind of big deal and we would make something kinda fancy/special but we cook together a lot these days so it’s not too different, but we still enjoy it. We don’t do gifts or cards or anything like that though.
K | February 8th, 2011 at 6:09 pm
We’re not celebrating it. Partly because one of us isn’t working and partly because the other one of us despises Valentine’s Day. I’ll let you figure out which one is which.
Mrs. Wilson | February 8th, 2011 at 9:21 pm
we’re not big on Valentine’s day. we exchange funny cards and make dinner together (we just bought a new bbq so we’re doing burgers this year) and stock up on half-price chocolate the day after.
hillary | February 9th, 2011 at 7:45 pm