Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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I ran into an acquaintance last weekend whom I hadn’t seen in at least a year. We got caught up on the kids and work and then she said, “You look great!” I replied with, “So do you!” It’s true - she does look great. Per usual.
Another friend was with us and as we are all the same age we soon got honest about the wrinkles and most especially, those two stupid lines that the three of us have between our eyes. We also freely admitted that while we have all said that we would never have plastic surgery, using Botox to get rid of those lines was…tempting. I won’t actually do it (I think) but the thought of erasing them, if only temporarily, makes me ponder it.
(Here is where, if I made my husband read this post, he would reply, “Hell to the NO.”)
This article about divorcees having plastic surgery to show their exes what they are missing, or to just feel better about themselves, piqued my interest. I don’t plan on getting divorced, but I can kind of see how some women, whether divorced or widowed or just aging might consider using plastic surgery to boost their self-confidence. The risks seem pretty high to me but for some the risk is worth it.
How about you? Would you get plastic surgery?
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No, not unless it was needed to fix something unusual like a severe injury. I am quite happy to look “about my age.” Wrinkles never killed anyone. But if they really are bothersome, there are natural, healthy ways to address them. You still won’t look 20, but who wants to be treated like an adolescent anyway?
SKL | March 1st, 2011 at 1:07 pm
I don’t ever plan to have any plastic surgery but I am currently doing laser hair removal treatments. I’ve only had one and I absolutely love it! I can’t wait to have all 6 treatments and be virtually hair free in my underarms.
I know a woman who, after her third (!) divorce, got plastic surgery. She got a face lift and larger breasts. I didn’t even recognize her the first time I saw her post-surgery.
K | March 1st, 2011 at 1:14 pm
so funny, i was just talking to a friend in her mid 40s the other day and she told me she gets botox for those lines when she can! Her initial motivation was the lines, but she said the side benefit was not having the ‘are you crazy??” look during meetings with… crazy people. so she decided it was also a good career move HAHA
kate | March 1st, 2011 at 3:03 pm
Nope. Never. Not because I think it’s wrong, but because it scares the tar out of me. I have a (gay) male friend who has had botox (even though he was only 22! and gorgeous!) and seeing it first-hand … no. Just, no. And other plastic surgery? The thought of cutting skin and sucking fat is enough to make me want to vomit.
So, although I would never judge someone who *did* get plastic surgery, I very highly doubt I ever will. Because I’m a scaredy cat.
Mrs. Wilson | March 1st, 2011 at 3:57 pm
I don’t think I could ever justify the expense, but I would totally get my boobs lifted if someone else paid the bill. And maybe a tummy tuck. And some lipo on my butt cheeks.
Amanda Brown | March 1st, 2011 at 7:13 pm
No.
Wait.
No.
Wait.
Maybe.
Under the right circumstances (ie// if it were a lot cheaper and a lot more commonplace).
But probably no.
Danica | March 1st, 2011 at 8:15 pm
And I also was thinking more the tummy tuck direction. My belly is just so loose from babies no amount of crunches will ever repair it.
I like my face the way it is and probably always will. I like my mother’s face and my grandmother’s face. I think aging is beautiful.
But not loose six-year-post-baby bellies. Nope. Those aren’t so cute.
Danica | March 1st, 2011 at 8:18 pm
Nothing where they cut into me but injections, sure. I just did my laugh lines last week for the first time and it is amazing. They are not 100% erased so it looks completely natural, no one has a clue that I did anything and I feel great. It hurt way less than my tatoo and I had no side effects at all and only needs to be done one a year, if that much.
Oceans Mom | March 2nd, 2011 at 11:35 am
I might. I have a few surgery scars that never healed properly and I’d love to erase.
hillary | March 2nd, 2011 at 2:40 pm
I used to always say, “No way will I ever have plastic surgery.” After all, I’ve had this honker of a nose for over 46 years, why change it now? But witht he passage of time I’ve noticed the skin on my neck getting loose, and if I angle my head in a certain position there is the hideous appearance of a double chin. Granted, it’s not a postion I’d contort into among friends, but still. I see it! Being a nurse, I’ve seen surgeries go horribly wrong. So I wouldn’t be quick to enter into an optional procedure. But as I approach the half century mark I’ve moved from the absolute no group to the maybe group. Time will tell.
Wendy S. Marcus | March 2nd, 2011 at 5:36 pm
Would I? Yes, but not the standard face tucks that people think of when they say plastic surgery. I crave breast reduction surgery. Not something I’d do right now, but I still think I’d be happy to do it when my daughter reaches adulthood.
It could be a great 50th birthday present. Going into my later years not feeling pulled forward by the weight of my chest.
Mich | March 2nd, 2011 at 7:17 pm
10 years ago the answer was an emphatic NO! Now, I don’t know. I have never considered for wrinkles, but I’m not that bothered by mine. I would love some real breasts. I guess I used the wrong word as mine are real, but I would like a better size. I am not sure about the danger involved. I also wouldn’t want people to know and talk about me. I’m sure I will want a tummy tuck in the future as well.
None of it will happen, I’m very sure of that.
Heather | March 2nd, 2011 at 7:23 pm
No, I would never be satisfied.
Sandys Connected | March 3rd, 2011 at 1:42 pm