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Committed: The Ties that Bond

with Angella Dykstra

I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.

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I Miss My Husband

Categories: love, marriage, sex


I miss my husband.

He isn’t out of town, nor am I. But I miss him.

April is a month that pulls us apart. I’m working six (long) days a week, because I’m an accountant and it’s “tax season.” (I’m Canadian, so “tax season” lasts until April 30th. Usually. As April 30th is on a weekend, the deadline is extended until May 2nd. SHOOT ME NOW.) He’s the Director of Children & Families at our church and it’s the wind down to summer and there are events happening ALL OF THE TIME.

I just want a date night alone with him. Or a date lunch. It’s not even remotely possible until April is over which makes me want it even more.

It’s not that we don’t talk or communicate but we do a lot of it via IM or text and it’s just not the same, you know? We get snippets over dinner between our three children telling us random facts or farting (incessantly) and we’ll get to the end of the day and have “special time” and then who has the energy to, you know, talk?

I know that this is temporary and that April will, eventually, come to an end. History confirms it. I also know that I just miss the “regular” busy as opposed to the “crazy” busy.


How do you guys cope when life is so busy that you don’t get the together time that you need? I could use some encouragement, here.

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3 comments so far...

  • My husband is an accountant, and I am just all in a tither that Monday is almost, really here, and not just a dream any more!

    We just try to do a lot of text messages and emails. We are planning a grown-up overnight trip for a friends’ wedding in a few weeks, so that provides motivation.

    I sympathize with you and send warm wishes of peace and more time after the 2nd passes!

    Dawn K.  |  April 15th, 2011 at 12:11 pm

  • I hope the rest of this month flies by. I hope you get the quality time you need asap.

    Danica  |  April 15th, 2011 at 12:25 pm

  • I feel your pain. It’s not quite as bad but with our upcoming move a lot of people (including my in-laws) are realizing “Oh no! He’s leaving! I need him to come help me with x,y,z before he goes!”

    He’s renovating a bathroom for a friend (it’s paid work but still; it’s also sadly on weekends since that’s when the guy is home). He’s been doing fix-up stuff at his parents’ house. My dad needs him to build a new computer for him. He’s doing various I.T. and reno jobs for other people who need his help.

    Meanwhile I’m thinking, “hmm, is anyone going to remember that *I* need him around here to help with some of the packing at some point?!” and yeah, I miss him.

    And also, when he’s spending time doing physical labour like breaking down bathroom walls and whatnot, he’s exhausted when he gets home so it’s not like we have high quality chit chat time. Bah.


    Sherry  |  April 15th, 2011 at 6:01 pm