Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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I’m not talking about the Moms reading this. I mean, I sure hope that you aren’t in charge of organizing your Mother’s Day, unless you like it that way. We don’t make a HUGE deal about it, but I love the presents that the kids make at school and the cards and the “bigger” present my husband always gets for me. He always asks for my input but it’s up to him to make any arrangements. This year he asked if I wanted to go out for dinner and I suggested that we go to a Mother’s Day brunch instead. In over eight years of being a Mom we’ve yet to go to a traditional Mother’s Day brunch and I’m a little bit excited about it.
What I am talking about, after that rambling paragraph, is who is in charge of covering Mother’s Day for your Moms. In nearly eleven years of marriage, my husband and his siblings have always organized Mother’s Day (and birthday and Christmas) presents for their Mom. I know that some wives seem to inherit that responsibility but I have no desire to take that over. It’s not that I don’t like my Mother-In-Law (I call her Mom) but she has particular tastes and her kids are pretty great at getting her just what she wants. Besides, I have two Moms of my own to worry about.
How does it work in your relationship? Do you cover your own Moms, or do it together, or does one of you do it all?
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I cover both of our moms. I’m not thrilled about it but the alternative is watching my mother-in-law be disappointed when both of her sons forget (which has happened in the past.) I don’t organize everything - I make a reservation at a restaurant and I remind both of the dudes to buy a card. I resent it a little, to be honest. But I don’t want my stubbornness to stand in the way of her enjoying her day so every year we go through the same routine
hillary | May 6th, 2011 at 1:13 pm
In our home and with my siblings it’s every man for himself and I think that’s how it should be. Each person should be responsible for saying thank you in their own way to their own mother.
I’m not into the whole card, present, flowers, and brunch thing but I do like going and doing something that I consider fun like hiking, or a motorcycle ride, or a movie.
I send my boyfriend’s mom a card and I usually buy my mom a treat and we all visit when we can. I think women make way too big a deal about this day.
There’s more to life than being a mother. I’m grateful any time my son says thank you or hugs me or loves me. I don’t need a special day for that : )
mneave | May 10th, 2011 at 2:59 pm