with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.
It’s not healthy.
You need to have a best friend who is not your husband.
Calling your spouse your best friend means that you can’t make friends of your own.
I call B.S.
This is not because I do not have great girlfriends, no. I have a small group of friends who I refer to as my “besties.” They are smart and they are funny and they are open and they are honest and we speak freely and we share our struggles and they are all that a woman could ask for in a friend, amen.
The thing is, I did not marry them. I did not vow to be together until death us do part. I do not sleep with them every night and I have not borne children with them and I do not hash out the daily details and decide what is best for my family unit with them. We do not cook meals together and we do not make career decisions together and while we love each other immensely, there is only one person in my life who gets the supreme title of Best Friend.
My husband. Because he knows me more intimately that anyone else. He knows all of my dreams and my fears, my hopes and my insecurities, what makes me laugh and what makes me cry. He is the ultimate Bestie.
So, while I love my girl Besties, I have no reservation in calling my husband my Best Friend. I’m not saying that it works the same way for everyone else, not at all. I have just been on the receiving end of some negative comments in the past and wanted to set the (my) record straight.
How about you? Is your spouse your best friend?
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