Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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Back when I was a single lass, dreaming of meeting my future husband, one of the qualities I prayed for was a man who knew how to be a good Dad. My Dad is a good Dad, but with nine (NINE) children, there’s only so much Dad to go around. There was a season where I lived with him and worked in our family cafe and it was my time to be Daddy’s Girl. I’m still one of his girls, sure, but time moves on and I’ve got a family of my own and, well.
My husband has this way with children. Not just with our children, but with all children. His job as the Director of Children & Families at our church didn’t happen by accident. I have people approach me all the time to tell me how much they appreciate him and how he is so GOOD with kids.
He is.
I will tell them about how, when our kids were babies and we’d volunteer in the church nursery, before I knew it all of the kids were flocked around him and I’d be all “Hi! I read books too!” Or how there have been so many babies who are “afraid of men who aren’t their Dads” who crawl up into his lap and smile.
He just has that thing, whatever it is that you call that thing.
It’s the same with our kids, obviously. Our kids love him and adore him and when I watch him playing soccer with them or wrestling with them or painting our daughter’s toenails (Yes, really) my cheat heaves and my heart twinges with how great of a Dad he is. My kids have one of the best Dads on the planet.
The fact that he is as manly as all get-out (Hunting! Snowmobiling! Fishing! Hiking! ATV-ing!) and is so nurturing and hands-on and loving and sweet makes him incredibly sexy, beyond his good looks. He’s all mine, ladies. Back away.
What traits make your spouse even sexier than their physical attributes? Traits, habits, etc.?
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Matthew and Rob are SO similar in so many ways, as I think we’ve established from years of reading each other’s blogs! Rob is also in charge of the Children & Youth Ministry at our church (although unlike Matthew, it’s not his fulltime job) and I get similar comments from people about how amazing he is with kids. Also, comments about how he should consider training to be a teacher, even at the age of 37!
I agree with you completely, sexy is not all about good looks. I think my man is hot but he is also kind, generous, honest, wise, loving and EVERYONE likes him!
Hannah | June 21st, 2011 at 10:35 pm
My main squeeze is incredibly generous and thoughtful. He is always willing to lend a hand whether it’s a ride to an appointment or borrowing money or whathaveyou. He’s also really great with kids. He has an easy going, relaxed way about him that kids seem to gravitate towards.
sizzle | June 22nd, 2011 at 10:50 am
My husband has the kid thing too. I don’t know what it is, he is definitely not very nurturing, but the kids swarm and he is Mr. Crazy Fun.
I like it. I like it a lot.
Other things - the brains. When I met him he was a good looking, tanned muscular lifeguard with dimples, but frankly, I was 18 and there were good looking dudes everywhere. When I found out he was into Physics and Math AND God and was super-smart. That was what intrigued me. Swoon!
Danica | June 22nd, 2011 at 7:22 pm