Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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I love my husband. I do. So much so that it can be a bit nausea-inducing if I were to ramble on about it. He loves me, too, and not just because he is legally bound to do so.
Sunday night found us sitting in our living room, wine in hand. My husband is a pretty quiet guy for the most part. He tells me he loves me, we kiss hello and goodbye and have frequent “special time.” He encourages me often, whether it is about how he appreciates the work I do, or how he appreciates my body. Ahem.
Sunday was different. He started out with “I LIKE YOU.” I then asked what it was that he liked about me.
He listed everything from being a good Mom to being a good friend to how I was so nice to everyone I encountered and how I cooked good meals and how he appreciated my dedication to fitness and liked to just look at me. While I was a little bashful about his praise it was so very nice to hear, you know?
He likes me! He really, really likes me!
I told him what I liked about him (tight buns aside) and it was nice. To sit with the one I love and talk about what we like about each other.
What do you “like” about your spouse?
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Right now it’s pretty easy to list what I like about Noah. For one, he takes really good care of me. With everything that’s happened in the last day or two, I like that he genuinely cares about me and I like that he doesn’t like to see me in pain and that he’ll go great lengths to make it stop.
Besides things relating to me being unwell, I like how dedicated of a father he is and how he doesn’t segregate “my” kid from “our” kids. I like that he is so helpful around the house, I like that he’s a hard worker, I like how attracted he is to me even with the birthing-three-kids body I have, I like that he has a great love of his mother (without being a stereotypical mama’s boy) (although I totally tease him about that). I could keep going, but I don’t want this to be one of those comments that’s longer than the post.
Mrs. Wilson | June 28th, 2011 at 2:40 pm
haha it’s funny how we get busy in ruts of things we want to change - it’s nice to talk about the stuff that’s going right, the things that we LIKE!
I like that my husband answers me when i ask ‘which do you like better, this necklace or that one?” , that he is a GREAT dad, that he changes his dad interactions with the kids on my recommendation (i.e. if you joke with him like that he will joke with other kids, please keep this in mind… lol) (that may be nicer than how i actually say it). I like that he puts up with my crazy moments and even finds them endearing lol! I like and admire his ability to not really care what other people think when he insists on saying/doing what he thinks is right.
aahh i also could go on and on… thanks for this - need to focus more on the ‘like’ parts
kate | June 28th, 2011 at 5:00 pm
There is a lot that I really liek about my husband and we’ve made it a point, throughout our eleven years of marriage, to tell the other person that we not only love, but LIKE each other, too.
I love how innovative my husband is, how he uses a sweet voice when he talks to me. I love how our kids love him to pieces and how he takes to the time play with them. How he loves me even though my figure isn’t what it used to be. The list could go on and on. What I love most? Is that he often tells me how much he appreciates and admires how much I contribute to the family. He really likes and feels that I’m truly his helpmate.
Stacey | June 28th, 2011 at 7:28 pm
I like that he came up to me the other day and said, ‘Babe, I’m going to sell my motorcycle to pay for your tuition.’
When I managed to pick my jaw up off the ground, I thanked him. A lot.
Waaaaaaaaaaaaaahhooooooooooo!!!!!
And there’s lots of other stuff too. The dimples and handsome good looks. The big brains. The crazy intense work ethic. The awesome Daddyness.
Danica | June 29th, 2011 at 1:52 pm