with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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My husband and I didn’t have a unity candle at our wedding ceremony because, well, I had never heard of one at that point in time and nobody had told us about them or that we could include one. For those of you who have never heard of them either, it’s to symbolize the bride and groom becoming one. Their mothers walk up with a candle, say something if they are led, and then they each light a candle. At the end of the ceremony, the bride and groom each take the candle their mother lit, light a larger middle candle, and blow out the ones they are holding.
The first time I saw this in action was when my husband’s sister got married. The lighting part by the mothers went fine, the ceremony was beautiful, and then the bride and groom approached the table where the candles were. They lit the middle candle and then…he blew out ALL THREE, including the “unity” candle. There was a lot of laughter.
We’ve been to two other weddings where there were issues with the candles, including my brother’s wedding this past weekend. The unity candle would. not. light. I’m pretty sure a blow torch wouldn’t even have worked. It’s a good thing we’re not superstitious people.
How about you? Did you have a unity candle at your wedding?
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