with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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I’m sure that you heard about this yesterday, but in case you didn’t, here’s what went around the Interwebs. Pat Robertson, you know who he is, took a call from a viewer who asked what advice a man should give to a friend who began seeing another woman after his wife started suffering from the incurable neurological disorder.
“I know it sounds cruel, but if he’s going to do something, he should divorce her and start all over again, but make sure she has custodial care and somebody looking after her,” Robertson said.
Terry Meeuwsen, Robertson’s co-host, asked him about couples’ marriage vows to take care of each other “for better or for worse” and “in sickness and in health.”
“If you respect that vow, you say ’til death do us part,’” Robertson said during the Tuesday broadcast. “This is a kind of death.”
If I didn’t think this guy was ridiculous before, this sealed the deal for me. I’m a Christian but often hesitate to say so because I don’t want to be associated with the crazy group of people who do/say things “in the name of God” that have not been founded on the Bible. They may say that they are but if you’ve read the Old Testament and the law and the New Testament and the words of Jesus, you know that some people in modern times twist Scripture to make it sound like they are speaking Truth.
This time, though, there was no Bible reference. Just, you know, some guy (Who is the CHAIRMAN of the CHRISTIAN BROADCASTING NETWORK) spouting off that if your spouse gets Alzheimer’s, it’s best to divorce them (Um, divorce goes against the teachings of the Bible) and “start all over again.”
I kind of want to kick him in the teeth right now.
Faith and religion aside, I find that statement to be rather atrocious. If my husband were to fall prey to Alzheimer’s, or dementia, I would not divorce him “but make sure he has custodial care and somebody looking after him.” This doesn’t mean that my own life would cease to exist, but to walk away from a lifetime together and leave him in the hands of caretakers is heartless.
Don’t get me wrong — my husband and I have given each other the A-OK to find another companion if one of us were to die — but if he were deteriorating, how could I just wash my hands of him? I don’t see that ever happening.
What are your thoughts on ’til death do us part? And Pat’s statements?
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