Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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I was rummaging around in our downstairs storage room this weekend and happened upon an ivory-colored box. It is the box that the dry-cleaner put my wedding dress in once it was put through the cleaning process. I affectionately refer to it as my wedding dress’s “coffin.”
I am the same size/weight I was when I got married (don’t hate me) and I’ve often thought that it would be fun to round up a group of girlfriends, have us don our wedding dresses and go out for dinner. Possibly on the beach. Just think of the photo ops!
My kids aren’t all done having babies/losing their baby weight but one day, we will make it happen. How could we not? In the meantime, my dress will remain in its coffin and pray for a day where it can shine again.
What did you do with your wedding dress?
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I LOVE that idea of having a beach picnic with your girlfriends in their wedding dresses!! My dress never got professionally cleaned, and it’s still hanging on a hanger with it’s bag over it, in our spare bedroom closet. And yes, there was red wine spilled onto the skirt, but since it was just many layers of tulle, I think it kind of just slide off.
I’m not sure it still fits me - although I’m about the same weight, I’m thicker through the waist and smaller through the chest (thank you pregnancies and nursing - sigh). But you’ve inspired me to think about pulling it out this weekend, just to see if my daughter likes it.
Angela | September 20th, 2011 at 12:02 pm
My wedding dress was a sari — the same one my mom wore for her big 25th anniversary bash. So, massive emotional connection to the dress, but also, since saris are just 6 to 8 yards of cloth, no fittings to contend with! Which means that it still fits—technically. It’s hanging in my guest-room closet, waiting for any of my daughters to be interested in wearing it (or any of my other saris)…
Lylah | September 20th, 2011 at 1:47 pm
It is hanging in the closet of my dad’s spare bedroom. I designed it myself so I hate the idea of getting rid of it. But the marriage is over and I can’t stand the idea of seeing it on a regular basis. So, for now, there it will stay.
xox
heidikins | September 20th, 2011 at 1:51 pm
Mine is in my closet. The last time I tried to fit into it … I swore I’d never try again. But, I just might. I tried to sell it once, in our moving garage sale, but I’m glad it didn’t sell. It still has the dirt on it from our wedding day.
Mrs. Wilson | September 20th, 2011 at 2:34 pm
Mine is in a coffin as well. It resides under my daughter’s bed.
However mine would take a lot of effort for me to get into it. Hm…maybe that should be my goal? To lose the weight and join your for dinner!
Wendy [mapsgirl] | September 20th, 2011 at 2:47 pm
haha mine is also in the bag in the closet with a stain on it. i never got around to having it cleaned. now that i have a daughter i figure i will hang on to it if she wants it or wants parts of it… but, oddly, i dont really have an emotional connection if she decides she wants to wear something else (or doesn’t get married) yet i cannot bring my self to even let go of it enough to get it cleaned! lol
kate | September 20th, 2011 at 2:51 pm
I’m also the same size/weight as I was on my wedding day 12 years ago. Last year I was asked to model my dress at a special bridal fashion show. It was really fun!!! It felt really good to wear it again and have people admire it, I had lots of comments about how timeless it looked.
I definitely want to do the whole “trash the dress” thing at some point though (check out this NZ site: http://trashthedress.co.nz). My friend has her own photography business and she’s done a couple of trash the dress shoots. SO awesome. Just waiting for that right time, really.
Hannah | September 20th, 2011 at 4:14 pm
Mine is hanging in my closet. I definitely gained some weight after getting married, so somewhere around year 4 I decided to try to fit back in my dress by our 5th anniversary. Our 9th anniversary was last month, and I still don’t fit. I’m lazy.
Teri | September 20th, 2011 at 9:03 pm
good wedding dresses is an important one
vivienne westwood jewellery | September 20th, 2011 at 10:01 pm
It is lying on the bed in the spare room. That way, I can look at it. We haven’t even been married two months - I don’t think I need to find a permanent place for until until three months!
I was so sad to take it off, knowing I would never get to wear it again!
Heather | September 21st, 2011 at 1:12 am
Love the idea of having a dinner with girl friends in a wedding dress. I have no idea where I read it…but I’m fairly sure it was local (Cottage Life mag perhaps)…a group of women getting together at a cottage and in the end jumped in the lake in their wedding dresses.
I was going to sell my dress…but after not trying to sell it for the first few years after getting married…it never happened. Now I’m keeping it for sentimental reasons…at least that’s what I tell myself.
Amanda | September 21st, 2011 at 10:01 pm
I have no idea what became of my dress.
Is that sad?
Danica | September 22nd, 2011 at 4:50 pm
Mine is still at my parents’ house. I’ll bring it with me one day. It still fits; I could wear it again (it wasn’t a “real” wedding dress, just an ivory gown), but to me it’s my wedding dress, so that probably won’t happen.
The concert hall in my hometown throws a fairly posh ball each year where all women wear their wedding dresses, specifically so they can wear them again. It’s not for me, but I think it’s a cool idea…
Dani | September 24th, 2011 at 9:27 am