My husband and I have very different communication styles. I, on the one hand, like to communicate. He, on the other hand, does not. He does it, but it usually involves a lot of prodding and pleading and questioning, and even that doesn’t always work. He knows this, and tries to be better, but it’s just not his nature.
This January has been a hard one for the both of us. There’s the post-holiday crash, grey weather, and a nagging feeling of discontent. He’s in a job that he loves, but it’s pretty demanding, and for once in in his life he’s not sure of the 10-year plan. I’m in a job that I am good at, but am not content with, I have no idea what I should be when I grow up, and a bunch of other stuff I can’t talk about on the Internet.
My husband has been stuck inside his own head for the past few weeks and we as a couple haven’t been firing on all cylinders. It hasn’t been bad between us, but it hasn’t been great, either. While out with girlfriends on Sunday night I hinted at that fact to them, and then when I got home I pointed it out to him. We slept on it and hashed it out yesterday. Again, the details of our conversation are not for the Internet, but I literally felt a weight lift after our (two-hour) conversation.
We saw the problem in our communication, we talked about a number of issues that have been weighing on us, and we came up with an action plan. Yay, communication!
How about you? Is one of you better at communication? Do you have any tips for keeping the lines of communication open?