Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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When we’re together, my husband does all of the driving, all of the time. It’s nothing to do with gender roles or anything; he just does it. That leaves me free to read/text/Twitter/FB/you get the idea, so I’m not complaining.
(If we’re in Vancouver, I do the driving. I lived there for six years, he did not, I’d like him not to suffer a coronary.)
I drive myself to and from work everyday, and I drive the kids to the events that we’ve decided that I’m taking them to.
But when we’re all together, my husband is usually in the driver’s seat.
Who does the driving in your relationship?
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I was thinking about this the other day. My Dad always does the driving when my parents are together. My husband and I take turns driving. In the past year or so we will drive each other’s cars on occassion (when we are together). Mostly, I’ll let him drive my car because it usually has gas in it and I don’t always like to be the driver.
K | March 21st, 2012 at 10:11 am
For some reason, this has always made me curious about people.
If we’re going on short trips around town I do the driving because I normally drive the kids to and from ‘day care’ so I don’t like him to mess my seat up. If we’re driving on long trips, he does about 60-70% of the driving. If we’re driving in a large-ish city with lots of interstate and interchanges I do the driving because he gets super stressed in those situations and I grew up driving in those situations.
Growing up, my Dad did most of the driving except for long trips we all took turns then. My father-in-law always drives my mother-in-law. Once we went somewhere with them in two separate cars. On the return trip I ended up driving her van home while she sat in the passenger seat.
Kara | March 22nd, 2012 at 9:11 am
He does the driving when we are together. This is because he can’t refrain from criticizing my driving, so it’s easier for me to just LET HIM drive. Besides, then I get to Facebook or text or catch up on my emails.
Mind you, we each have our “own” car, so it doesn’t feel “natural” for me to drive “his” car when we are together. We never go out as a family in my car, since it’s a two-door convertible (the other car is an SUV). If we go out solo without kids, I will usually “let” him drive my car….admittedly, it is fun to drive.
My mother-in-law does all the driving for them now, but that’s because my father-in-law had a stroke and lost some of his vision, so he’s no longer legally allowed to drive. Before that, HE always drove when they were together.
Angela | March 22nd, 2012 at 1:03 pm