with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.
I have eight siblings. Yes, eight. My Dad has been married a few times and there are three “sets” of us. Three from the first marriage, two from his second marriage (I’m the oldest in that set), and four from the third set. I moved in with my Dad and step-mom (I call her Mom) when I was thirteen and was a bit of a “second Mom” to my younger siblings. It’s been great to redefine our relationship as adults, but being there as they were growing up was something that made me want to have four kids of my own.
My husband comes from a family where there were three kids. Him, and a younger sister and younger brother. They got (and get) along great and yet when we first started talking about children, he said that he only wanted two. I wanted four. We decided to aim for two and then go from there.
Our firstborn came along and then twenty months later, our second born popped out. Two beautiful baby boys. Having two babies so close together, I thought that we might be done. Maybe. But when our youngest turned one I thought that I might want to have one more baby, be it boy or girl. My husband felt the same.
Nine months later (ish), we had our daughter. We knew going into the pregnancy that it would be our last and after enduring some discomforts I’d never experienced before (Spider veins)(And varicose veins)(That showed up in my nether regions)(THAT WASN’T IN THE PREGNANCY BOOKS), I was more than happy to not be pregnant ever again.
We know that bearing three kids is what is perfect for us. As for how many kids we have? That’s still up in the air. We’ve often discussed adopting, or even fostering, and that’s still on the table.
How did your “vision” of kids play out? Or, if you haven’t had kids yet, how many do you want? Or, are you open to anything? (I love baby talk.)
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