Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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In line with my last post about having a “healthy” sex life, I learned about the Lifetime show called 7 days of sex. I’ve written about previous ’seven days of sex’ and ‘30 days of sex’ challenges, but this is a new spin on it. This is a T.V. show that is chronicling real-life couples who are having sex for one week straight with the hope of saving their marriage.
30 days is a little bit over the top many and also for us (except for when we were wanting to be pregnant), but for those who are feeling disconnected and struggling, seven days straight is totally doable. (Heh.)
Would you, could you, take the ’seven days of sex’ challenge?
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Nope. No way. Someone telling me when and how often to have sex? No, thank you.
Mrs. Wilson | May 11th, 2012 at 12:14 pm
at least for us, for the most part, we have noticed that sex begets sex…. much like in the way that when you’re dealing with babies—- sleep begets sleep.
so i would be OK with accepting a “challenge” such as this.
however, i’m not available for that. thanks to my husband being in different state/time zone next week.
at this exact moment, though- i would say that given the opportunity, i would probably be view it more as a challenge/task, and be acutely aware that it isn’t desire that’s urging me on. and i would hope for the best outcome of more intimacy beyond.
we had one period of tons of it (in our standards) and it was good. really good. but maybe it wasn’t exactly working perfectly, as we did not endure such dynamics.
aaaahhhh, though. those were the good ol’ days.
mpotter | May 11th, 2012 at 12:37 pm
Ha ha ha. Ouch.
Probably not 7 days in a row, but I’d be up for the challenge of an increase.
D | May 11th, 2012 at 2:56 pm
Yeah, I’d do it for fun, but not for any other reason.
If we were one of those couples, I wouldn’t pin any hopes on 7 days of sex “saving my marriage”.
As I’ve mentioned before, in response to previous posts about this topic, I do not believe that sex = intimacy. There is so much more to it, and I would hope the couples who are taking part in this challenge to improve their relationships are putting a lot more into it than just doing the deed every night for a week.
Hannah | May 11th, 2012 at 3:48 pm
Feeling somewhat disconnected, we had challenged ourselves to 30 days of sex once, just for fun. We managed 7 days in a row. Then my husband mentioned he really wasn’t interested in continuing the challenge if it was just for the purpose of meeting the goal. You have to have the want to. If you both really don’t really WANT to, it becomes a bit like checking off a ‘to do’ list. Besides, we were both exhausted after that! (midlife). My take: a few days in a row in order to reconnect is a good thing . It doesn’t have to be a week, though.
Been there. done that. | May 12th, 2012 at 8:42 pm
We’re currently living in different states for work, so I would be thrilled just to be able to *see* each other 7 days in a row, LOL! Even when we’re living “normal,” however, I think it would require a lot of pre-planning and possibly hiring a nanny/maid for the week to make it work. I mean, that’s a minimum of 7 hours commitment out of the week!
Emily @ Make It Happen Mama | May 14th, 2012 at 12:23 am