with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.
The Internet has been aflame this week with incendiary posts. Time magazine’s cover photo got Twitter/Facebook/blogs all aflutter with their takes on if women were “Mom enough.” Yesterday’s post over at Babble about ‘Top 10 Things Mothers Do Better Than Fathers’ got all of the Dads’ panties (Do Dads wear panties?) in a knot.
It’s 2012, people. Two thousand and twelve, twenty-twelve, however you pronounce it.
There are people who are stuck in stereotypes from fifty years ago, and God bless them. I hope they are happy.
As for my husband and I, we are truly equal partners when it comes to this whole parenting gig. Yes, I was the one who pushed three children out of my vagina (Our first born was 9 lbs, 12 oz., complete with a fourth degree tear. AND THEN WE HAD TWO MORE) but fetal hosting and pushing a watermelon out of a hole the size of an orange aside, he has done all of the things. Diaper changes, middle of the night feedings, bath time, bedtime, packing school lunches, etc.
I would say that he is the better parent because he is Mr. Clean, and because he has run the ship for the past two years as I worked long days at an office in the next town. He says that I am the better parent because I do what needs to be done and also take time to sit and listen. I may be a chatterbox but I also love to hear everyone else’s stories.
We’re a good parenting team, I think, and it has nothing to do with the Mom and Dad titles that get everyone all worked up. He is the Dad, but he’s not a bumbling idiot. I am the Mom, and do all that I can to love on my kids, but sometimes they just prefer their Dad. He’s really good at wrestling on the floor, and I am not. He’s also kind of awesome, in every way, which is why I married him. Our kids have clued into his magnificence and love him even more for it.
I think that we have a good balance going on over here, but I know that it’s not everyone’s reality.
Who do you think is the better parent in your relationship?
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