I’m sure that you’ve all heard about the Robert Pattinson/Kristen Stewart debacle, which is a hard one to miss because it is being dissected EVERYWHERE. It’s hard enough to find out that the one you love has cheated on you; I can’t imagine how horrible it must be for those two. I don’t know them at all (obviously), but for some reason I hope they can work it out.
I have never had my husband cheat on me, and neither of us plan on that happening, which is why we work hard at keeping our relationship fresh and alive. Date nights, sex more nights than not, time at the end of the day to connect, etc. We also don’t spend time alone with members of the opposite sex (i.e. coffee dates, movies, etc.) We do have friends of the opposite sex, but we hang out in groups.
That said, were an affair to happen, I would be devastated. Before I ever got married, I vowed that if my future husband ever cheated, I would leave. End of story. But now that we’ve been together for twelve years, have three kids together, pets, a home, I don’t know if it would be a cut and dried decision. I know couples who have dealt with one of them cheating and worked through it. It’s so complicated.
And you? Would your marriage (or committed relationship) survive an affair?