with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.
Let’s say that you are a working Mom (in addition to the work that goes into simply being a Mom). Let’s say that your husband is a working Dad (in addition to the work that goes into simply being a Dad). You also are in charge of things like groceries and cooking, he’s also in charge of things like keeping the garden growing and the fixing the oven/washer/dishwasher when they break.
(I do not envy him. When electronics break, I get disproportionately ANGRY.)
As I wrote about last week, we’re in the midst of summer break, and trying to balance our work schedules while keeping our kids entertained. We do a daily dance of ‘What do you need to get done today?’ and ‘No, YOU can get your work done’ and, man. We both have work that needs to get done, neither of us wants to be working into the wee hours of the morning, and we’re afraid as coming across as the person saying that their work is a higher priority than the others.
I have deadlines, for both career work and freelance work, so I’ve taken to meeting those and letting other stuff wait, because they can. He has one BILLION things to do before September, when all of the children and families activities start, so he’s been attending meetings and wrangling our kids and cramming a lot of emails and such in a short amount of time so that we still get down time in the evenings.
We’ve swung the career pendulum a number of times in our married life; one of us was the primary breadwinner while the other one did what they could to contribute, based on our situation. Right now, we’re on equal footing, bread winning-wise, so we’re navigating new territory. So far, we’re finding a balance. So far.
How does it work for you in your relationship? Do one of you have work that takes higher priority?
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