Our oldest child, a son, just started sixth grade and is now attending middle school. (He also just created his own Apple ID and joined Instagram. Sigh.) At the end of fifth grade, he had a few ‘family life’ classes where they talked about hormones and body changes and all of the things he would be expecting to happen in the very near future.
He came home with questions to ask his parents, and we had a lot of fun with them.
What was the best part of your teenage years?
Me: “I got boobs.”
What was the worst part of your teenage years?
My husband: “Girls got boobs.”
All joking aside, we try to talk openly with my kids. The week after that family life class, my husband took our two sons out hunting and had some good conversations about body changes, and girls, and the craziness of hormones. In addition, my husband and our oldest son have an overnight camping/hunting date coming up, where they can talk one-on-one.
I think the key is to be as honest as possible. I didn’t have much conversation or counsel from my parents — nor did my husband from his parents — because that generation didn’t talk about things as openly as ours does.
We want to communicate with our kids about everything, and we try to foster a home where they know that they can talk to us about anything. There is a lot of trust between us and we hope to keep that throughout both their teenage years and the rest of our lives?
Do you have any tips about talking to your kids about the birds and the bees? I’d love any advice that you have, because it’s our first go at it.