Archive for February, 2014

Committed: The Ties that Bond

with Angella Dykstra

I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.

Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.

Tips For Less Stressful Weekday Mornings

Categories: children, school

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Trying to get myself out of the door in the morning is a feat in and of itself. Over the past fourteen years it went from me, to me and him, to three of us, to four of us, and then to five of us. I now have one kid in middle school, and two kids in elementary school. Mornings can be chaotic on a good day, and that’s an understatement. Here’s how we make it less stressful:

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Are You Setting Social Media Boundaries?

Categories: children, discipline

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Last year, when my eldest child was ten, he told me that a number of his friends were on Facebook and he wanted an account. Hah. No.

The “legal” age for FB is 13, and we’ll wait until then. I did set him up an email account — which I have full access to — and last fall when he asked if he could have an Instagram account, I helped him set it up. He’s set to Private, so only people he’s approved can see his photos. If he gets a request from a name he doesn’t recognize, he’ll check with me, and it’s always one of my friends.


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How To Make Eating Out With Kids Enjoyable

Categories: children, discipline

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My kids are all school-aged, and we’ve gotten used to eating out with them every once in awhile – when the budget allows – and it’s a … nice experience. They sit in their seats, they wait for their dinner, and they don’t run loops around the restaurant while shrieking and touching everyone and everything they see.

Back when my kids were pre-school age, eating out caused a lot of stress. We avoided it at all costs, until we figured out how to make it a less torturous experience. Here’s how we made it bearable:


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How Do You Spend Your “Me” Time?

Categories: health

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Far too often, Moms say that they have no time for “me” time. They have jobs and a spouse, and a kid or five. There is always something to be done, so they sacrifice all of their time for those around them … and end up with an empty tank. Don’t be a martyr. Take care of yourself, and you will be more capable of taking care of those in your charge.

I have a busy life, just like everyone else. I am self-employed, and work about forty hours a week between shuttling kids around and volunteering and making dinner and helping with homework, and, and, and. It would be easy to fall into the trap of trying to get just one more thing crossed off my list instead of taking time for myself, but I learned years ago that the list is never done and if I don’t take time for me, nobody wins. I don’t win, my marriage doesn’t win, and my kids don’t win.


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Helping Your Middle Child Feel Included

Categories: children, parenting

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I have three children. Graham, my oldest, is the stereotypical first-born child. He’s cautious, responsible, and sometimes has to be reminded that he’s not the parent. Emily, my third child, is the stereotypical “baby” of the family. She’s used to being taken care of by her parents and her older brothers and sometimes needs to be encouraged to do things herself. Nathan, my middle child, fits the “middle child” description. He’s very much a “look at me!” kid, being sandwiched between the first born and the baby.

He’s a great kid who loves hugs — you will MAKE HIS DAY if you ask him for a hug — and is entirely different personality-wise from his siblings. He loves — and is great at — every sport, and prefers playing outside to reading a book. It could be easy for him to get lost in the shuffle, I suppose, but we make an effort of supporting him in everything he does. A few ways that we make sure he doesn’t feel like he got the short end of the stick when it comes to his birth position:


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Why You Should Get Away Without Your Kids

Categories: children, marriage

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I’m married to this guy that I like a whole lot, and he likes me too. We made three amazing kids together and we love to spend time together, just the five of us. We love to ski — we put all five of us in lessons two years ago — and spend our winters carving through fresh powder.

Last summer, our dream came true and we found ourselves owning a cabin at the hill we ski at. A few weeks ago, my brother offered to stay at our house with our kids so that my husband and I could spend two days and one night at our cabin, sans kids. It was just the two of us, without any little people needing anything.


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