Once upon a time (seven years ago), my husband and I attended a marriage course once a week for six weeks. One of the weeks covered love languages and it was a great learning experience. People are wired with different “love languages”, which affects how they feel loved and how they show love. If your love language is, say, “gifts”, receiving presents makes you feel loved and you will tend to show love to others by giving them presents.
My love language is “words of affirmation” (Shocker!) and my husband’s is “acts of service.” If I want to show him love, I will help with “his” chores (i.e. washing the chicken eggs we sell) and if he wants to show me love, he needs to say nice things (without being prompted - he’s a pretty quiet guy) or write me little notes. Knowing each others’ love languages has helped us a lot in our communication with each other.
(If you don’t know yours, there’s a quiz.)
Do you know what your love language is? Is your spouse’s language the same, or different?