with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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My husband has been in San Diego this week for a work conference. I’m happy that he got to go, because I seem to travel more than he does and he deserved the break from our daily routine. The biggest issue with him being gone — for me — is the fact that I couldn’t call/text/email him throughout the day. My sounding board was unavailable, for the most part. We had the chance for an extended chat last night during a layover he had at the Seattle airport and I hope he was able to clean himself from the verbal diarrhea I bombarded him with.
I spent four days and three nights wrangling our three kids, deadlines, and general household duties and lived to tell about it (barely). Here are a few things that kept me sane:
1. Don’t fight over dinner. Our kids have been picky since birth, but are getting better. Instead of cooking the meals that involve tag-teaming to get them to eat, I went for the easy options. Hot dogs and fries the first night, French toast and bacon the next night (Brinner!), and fish tacos/cheese wraps the third night.
2. Have some treats. The “Easter Bunny” (me) was generous with treats last weekend and I’ve encouraged my kids to eat some of them every day. And share them with their Mom.
3. Let some things slide. When it’s the two of us here, the house is spotless the majority of the time because my husband is a neat freak. He’s not here, I’m keeping everyone alive, and so I don’t feel the need to scrub the floor with a toothbrush.
4. Take some time for yourself. I have double the things to do than I normally would (Collecting eggs from our chickens while fighting off a rooster is a highlight/low light) and I could easily get wrapped up in all that needs to be done. Or, I could take thirty minutes to sit in the sun while reading a book to recharge. I did just that.
5. Write. Focusing on something besides the fact that HE’S NOT HERE helps you take your mind off of the fact that, well, he’s not here.
How do you keep it together when your spouse is away?
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