with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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Lisa Belkin over at the New York Times parenting blog Motherlode published a post this weekend titled, “Miss, Mrs. or Ms.?” In her post, she quotes an article in Time magazine which includes an essay by Nancy Gibbs in which she discusses her name.
Nancy talks about how she uses different names depending on the situation. She usually goes by her maiden name, but will sometimes use her husband’s name. As for the Miss/Mrs./Ms. question, she says, “All these identities are me: Ms. when I’m out slaying dragons, Mrs. when I’m in the company of those I love most, Miss when I want to stay home under the covers and daydream.”
As for me, I have taken my husband’s last name. I think (for me) that sharing the same family name with my husband and children shows that we are a family unit. If he had an awful last name (aside from the many times I have to spell it/pronounce it for people) and/or my maiden name was something I desperately wanted to keep I likely would have asked him to take my name. No, I’m not joking.
As it is, I became a Dykstra and always throw the Mrs. in front of it. I work hard at this marriage thing; I reserve the right to use the Mrs. as a symbol of my (happily) marries status. I don’t get offended if mail comes to me addressed as “Ms.” but I always fill out forms by checking the “Mrs.” box.
Are you a Miss, Mrs. or Ms.?
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