with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.
One of the running jokes among my circle of friends who have young children as I do is the fact that we can never have a complete conversation. When we have a play date with kids running around we are dealing with fights, meltdowns, and diaper changes. The phrase most often repeated is, “What was I saying again?”
This is often the situation when at home with my husband. While we have a sweet set-up in that we both work (mostly) from home, this does not mean that we have oodles of time in which to have uninterrupted conversation.
We have it good in that all of the little things (First words! Funny things said by the kids! New tricks mastered!) are communicated immediately and we are both kept in the loop.
Trying to have a serious conversation while the kids are awake, however, is not possible. Not only are they demanding and all about the interrupting, there are certain topics that we cannot discuss in front of them. They are no longer placid little babies, but are intelligent little beings who understand what we are talking about.
I cannot state that our kids are “being little jerks today” without hurting their feelings.
We eat dinner together as a family, and this is a good time to get caught up on the day’s activities. It is not a good time to hash out the attitude problems of our kids or any personal issues that we might be dealing with.
By the time the kids are fed, bathed, and fired into bed we are often too spent to discuss anything of substance. Date Nights are a good time for us to get away from the every day and reconnect, but our house has been hit with the Cold of Epic Proportions and we have not sat down to just talk in weeks. It is too easy to choose rest over the effort it takes to communicate.
I think we need to make a weekly date where we shut off the TV (and the computer) and have a meeting of the Powers That Be. For the sake of my husband and I, and for the sake of our family.
How about you? When do you find time to communicate with your spouse?
Subscribe to blog via RSS