When we were pregnant with our third child, our church put on the Alpha marriage course. A bunch of our friends signed up for it, and we did too. Nothing was “wrong” in our relationship, but we thought that getting out of the house once a week for a nice dessert and some one-on-one time couldn’t hurt.
It didn’t hurt, and it even helped. We learned about our love languages and a few communication tips that we still use today. We’re pretty lucky that we’re inherently compatible, and don’t fight about things like money and such because we’re both wired the same way (frugal). Our biggest point of contention is my desire to communicate about ALL THE THINGS and my husband’s need to just be quiet a lot of the time.
If we ever got to a point where our communication failed, we’d definitely sign up for couples therapy. We’ve had friends hit a wall, only to find that having a third party give some insight helped to break down the barriers. I’ve never had anyone tell me that seeking help didn’t work.
Have you ever been to couples therapy?