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Committed: The Ties that Bond

with Angella Dykstra

I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.

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Do you sleep in separate bedrooms?

Categories: love, marriage, sex


My husband and I share a bed — and a bedroom, obviously — but I’ve heard stories of couples who have their own rooms. Their own rooms! All to themselves! I suppose my husband and I do have our own rooms, in a sense. I have a craft room and he has his spousal avoidance center workshop, but when it comes time to go to sleep, we go to the same room and the same bed.

In this article in Today’s Parent, the author explains that they have separate rooms for good reason. She has insomnia and he is an epic snorer. The two do not mix well, so they each have their own rooms and have “conjugal visits.” Would we do the same if we were in that situation? Possibly, I guess, if it meant being well-rested and able to cope with life. I’d sure miss drifting off to sleep together and knowing that my husband was just inches away. As it is now, if one of us is away from home I have a horrible time sleeping without him beside me.

How about you? Do you/would you sleep in separate bedrooms (permanently)?

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2 comments so far...

  • I don’t know if I’d like separate bedrooms per se, but I’d sure like a place to crash when Noah WILL NOT STOP SNORING. Sometimes (often) I want to suffocate him. We very rarely go to bed at the same time (I need lots of sleep, he does not), so it wouldn’t make much difference in the falling asleep regard.

    Jen Wilson  |  February 1st, 2013 at 11:37 pm

  • I’m the same as the PP. And today is a bad day to answer because for the last two nights, I’ve been kept awake by HIS snoring!! I’m all for separate rooms. I usually go to bed a good hour or two before him and I get up an hour (or two) before him, so really, separate rooms would be great, as far as I’m concerned.

    Angela  |  February 4th, 2013 at 7:22 pm