My husband and I have chores that we are in charge of that definitely fall in the realm of “pink and blue.” He chops firewood and takes out the garbage, I do the grocery shopping and make all of our meals. I’d use the argument that we do them because we love them (I love to cook!), but dealing with garbage isn’t necessarily something that gives my husband the feeling of fulfillment.
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I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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Our church is holding a marriage “course” over four consecutive Wednesdays that is about making sure that you make time to connect with your spouse. I went begrudgingly (I find it ironic that we’re so BUSY, yet they expect us to come for two hours per session), but it was a good evening. We watched some video clips, answered questionnaires, then compared the answers. Not surprisingly (to us), our responses were almost identical.
My husband and I both have a case of the Januarys, coupled with fighting a cold (him) and battling PMS (me). We’re open about it and while it would be easy to just grumble and groan, we’ve made a plan to get us out of our funk.
My husband and I are wired completely differently. I love to read and to write, he prefers picture books and cannot spell to save his life. He prefers the wilderness (hunting, fishing, etc.) and I love to spend a few days in a big city. I am the eternal optimist, and he is the eternal pessimist (or “realist”, according to him). He excels at team sports and I am a runner. You get the idea.
We’re exactly one week away from Christmas (Don’t shoot the messenger!) and tensions seem to be running high not just for my husband and I, but for many of our friends. It’s supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, but it seems to be turning into one big headache instead. Here are a few tips to stay connected with your other half during the holidays.
I’m in New York City for a blogger event, and in order to get here, I had to catch a 6 a.m. flight yesterday. I had to be at the airport at 4 a.m., which means that I had to wake up at 2:30 a.m. It was as awful as you might imagine.
I slipped out of bed, walked quietly to the bathroom, shut the door behind me, and turned on the light. Awaiting me was a post-it note from my husband telling me that he loved me and to have a fun trip. When I went into the kitchen, he had written a post-it note with ‘I love you more!’ on it, and when I went to pack my laptop, he had written me another note. (See above photo.)
As much as my husband and I are great at communicating, sometimes we are not so great at communicating. To be honest, he is not good at communicating, as he’s more than happy to live in his little bubble of things to be done and not talk to anyone unless he has to for work.
The onus is on me to point it out (AGAIN) and remind him that he has a wife and kids who need more that a side hug and the requisite “How was your day?” He’s quick to get back on track, so there’s one point in his favor.
Back in the day when I started my personal blog (Seven and a half years ago!), most people in my life didn’t know what a blog even was. My husband got the general concept, but didn’t really pay much attention. Then came Twitter, then Facebook, and then all of the other sites we all waster our time on.
Twitter and Facebook were the big ones for me when I first signed up and my husband just didn’t see the point. Why do you need to use a website to connect with people that you know in real life? They weren’t for him.
Did you know that Facebook has decided to ramp up their privacy-invading tactics by creating a ‘couples page’ for anyone who has listed themselves as being in a relationship? They have. And they’ve already filled it out for you, complete with statuses and photos that you are both tagged in. Still don’t believe me? I didn’t believe it when I first read about it, either. And then I clicked on the link.
As I’m sure you are well aware, President Obama was re-elected as President of the United States of America. As I’m sure you are also aware — especially if you are on Facebook — political discussions can get pretty heated.Oh, some of the nonsense I’ve seen…