I have to admit that I’ve been a little bit discouraged by the Internet and its lack of posting about healthy relationships. YES, the divorce rate hovers around 50%, but where are the stories from that other 50%? Most stories I run across are about how to have an affair (AWESOME) or how to recover from divorce or whatnot.
This week, I came across this article from Real Simple about “10 ways to make your marriage divorce-proof”.
I was sold at the #1 Point: Realize that if you can agree on what constitutes a clean room, you can agree on anything.
If you’ve read any of my words here for the past two (!) years or read my personal site, you KNOW that my husband is a neat freak. If I keep up my end of the cleanliness bargain, conflicts are kept to a minimum.
Another point that made me say YES: Marry someone with a backbone who appreciates that you possess one of your own.
People often think that I “wear the pants in the relationship”, but no. My husband my be a quiet guy, but he is in no way whatsoever a pushover. He appreciates my backbone and has no problem in flexing his own.
The other eight points are pretty bang-on.
If you’re irritated by your partner, imagine him as a small child.
No fisticuffs in public.
Have sex with each other.
Accept that everybody needs alone time.
If you have to fight, walk and fight.
Let your spouse in on 90 percent of your day-to-day routine.
When you buy gifts for each other, give them at least a full minute of thought.
You need to read the article if you have time, as the descriptions that follow each point are pretty humorous.
Do you have any tips you’d like to add?