A few times a year, I find myself heading out of town for work, and I’m usually gone for three to five days. My husband is more than capable of running the show while I’m gone, but I do as much as I can to make it less hard on him than it needs to be. We run this house as a team, but we both have areas that we’re in charge of. Here are some of the things I do to help him do “my” jobs while I’m away.
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I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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My husband was away for three full days this week, attending a conference with a few of his colleagues. He goes to conferences a few times a year, and so do I. It was a lot harder when our kids were preschoolers, what with all of the diapers and bottles and lack of the ability on their part to speak.
Now that the kids are older, the ability to communicate makes having my husband away a little less traumatic. The kids can talk about how they are feeling, as opposed to just laying on the floor and crying.
My family and I recently spent a week at the coast, about a five-hour drive from our home. Our kids are old enough — ten, eight, and six — that the actual driving part is no big deal. There are no diapers to change, they can all communicate their needs/wants, and they have electronics to play with when we’re tired of “I Spy” and I want to read my book.
The time at the coast included a number of family and friends who wanted to spend time with us and see how big the kids had grown. There were things we wanted to do as a family (Visit the zoo!) and we also wanted some down time. How did we balance it all to make it an enjoyable week for everyone? Let me tell you.
I’m headed to the Mom 2.0 Summit this weekend to represent this here website and I’m ridiculously excited about it. I’ve attended the past five BlogHer conferences, but this will be my first time at Mom 2.0. I’m looking forward to seeing old friends, making new ones, and being learning how to be a better writer/blogger/community manager. I highly doubt that I’ll be indulging in the mini-bar.
My husband is the most ‘hands-on’ Dad I know, and he’s also great at doing jobs around the house beyona the traditional yard work/garbage/handyman things. He scrubs toilets, he does laundry, he washes the floors (weekly), and he is fully capable of cooking dinner. Dinner is more my thing, but if I’m not home he makes it happen.
Here’s what I do to lessen the burden for him and our three kids while I’m away:
My husband has been in San Diego this week for a work conference. I’m happy that he got to go, because I seem to travel more than he does and he deserved the break from our daily routine. The biggest issue with him being gone — for me — is the fact that I couldn’t call/text/email him throughout the day. My sounding board was unavailable, for the most part. We had the chance for an extended chat last night during a layover he had at the Seattle airport and I hope he was able to clean himself from the verbal diarrhea I bombarded him with.
I spent four days and three nights wrangling our three kids, deadlines, and general household duties and lived to tell about it (barely). Here are a few things that kept me sane:
My husband and I have been dreaming about getting away together, just the two of us. The last time we managed to do so was three years ago, when we went to Las Vegas for three nights. We’d love to go to Hawaii, as we’ve never been, and we have enough Alaska Airlines miles to get there for free.
Alas, the three children we’re raising aren’t old enough to be left alone and at this point in time there is nobody who can come and watch them for us for a week. I set that Hawaii dream on fire last night in a rare instance of facing reality (that’s usually my husband’s specialty.)
I was out of town this past weekend for a blogging conference. I flew out Friday morning and arrived home Sunday night. It’s my favorite annual conference and I always come back of it refreshed and recharged from spending quality time with some of my favorite people from inside (and outside) of the computer. I chatted with my family each day, but they were busy with activities and such and didn’t miss me (too) horribly.
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I’m in New York City for my fifth BlogHer conference, while my husband is at home taking our kids to the beach every afternoon. Every year, I ask him if he wants to come with me, and every year he laughs, because he is not a blogger and is not a fan of big cities.
He send me on my merry way to catch up with the friends I have made through the computer, and I have (and am having) a great time. Laughs over coffee, late night conversations, and some dancing in between.
Speaking of coffee, after working with her for over three years now, I finally met our very own Nataly! She’s just as sweet and energetic as she sounds on her own blog.
How about you? Do you ever get away with your girlfriends?
My two sons are off at camp for this week (Six nights away from home!) and my husband is at that same camp as a volunteer doing handyman stuff. This is the first time that both boys have been away at camp — or anywhere — without their sister, so I proposed that she and I take a girls’ trip. We hopped in the van and hit the road.
A friend and I were chatting over lunch about wanting/needing a weekend away with our respective husbands. She commented that it had been far too long since they went away together — it’s been almost a year. They have a great support system and a lot of family nearby, which means that they can leave their kids in good hands and enjoy time away together.