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with Mir Kamin

I'm a freelance writer and mother of two working from home, which theoretically means I can set my own schedule so as to best accommodate my family. In reality, "flexible hours" often equals "working too much." Yes, I'm my own boss; no, that doesn't mean life is easy. It's hard to leave the office when you live there. But I love what I do and feel very lucky. And not just because I get paid to work in my pajamas.

To learn more about Mir, check out her profile on Work It, Mom! or visit her blog at http://www.wouldashoulda.com/

My life at an hourly rate

Categories: A mother's work is never done, Now I'm free(lancing)

9 comments

Yesterday I realized something rather unsettling.

Ever since my freelancing business really took off, I’ve found myself classifying all manner of life activities by hourly wage.

Back when I was salaried, I never quite broke it down that way. And when I was unemployed, well, I never really thought about the whole time = money thing at all. But now that I regularly charge folks based on a per-hour fee, I can’t seem to get away from that mindset.

And the funny thing, of course, is that people are often astounded by a freelancer’s fee—assuming either that 1) you’re rolling in dough and/or 2) you’re vastly overcharging. The reality is that life as a freelancer means lots of lots of “unbillable” hours, so there’s plenty of work I can’t charge for, so why this sudden framing of everything in terms of hourly rate?

For the sake of argument, let’s say I charge $100/hour.

Then let’s say that I go to the supermarket and spend an hour shopping for $100 worth of groceries. I’ll be standing in the checkout line musing to myself that really, because I spent an hour of my time shopping rather than working, those groceries are actually costing me $200: The actual cost plus what I could’ve made if I’d worked for that hour.

Or suppose I take one of the kids to a doctor’s appointment and they make us wait an hour, and then we’re in the appointment itself for 45 minutes. I may rant to a friend, later, about how much the appointment “cost” me… and she’ll give me a funny look and say, “Wait, we have the same insurance. Isn’t it just a $15 co-pay?” And I’ll say yes, of course, but I’ll be thinking “A $15 co-pay and $175 in lost wages!”

Which is ridiculous. I couldn’t work constantly, even if I didn’t have a family or a life. So why am I doing it?

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9 comments so far...

  • you are not the only one. I tend to do that too. Perhaps you can hire someone to do your groceries and run your errands, or use one of those online services, such as freshdirect.com or peapod.com.

    vera babayeva  |  October 7th, 2008 at 9:31 am

  • Oh, yeah, I do that too, ever since I entered private practice and exchanged a salary for an hourly rate. I find that it helps me clarify what I want to do and where I want to direct my energy, though. For example, when there’s something to be done around the house (repainting the porch) I estimate the time it would take to do that, multiply it by my hourly rate, and if I can hire someone to do it for less than it would “cost” me, in my mind it makes sense to do that. The way I see it, it’s driven home the point to me that my time IS money, and I should budget it accordingly.

    CuriousParty  |  October 7th, 2008 at 2:09 pm

  • I do the exact same thing. It drives me a little crazy, but I guess it also shows us that our time is valuable? Maybe?

    Angella  |  October 7th, 2008 at 4:02 pm

  • I was taught to actually think of my time this way, even though I’m not a freelancer (and wasn’t raised by one. I do, however, have “billable” hours at work, so I actually tend think of it even more than I used to when I had unbillable jobs.) I was told growing up that whatever I was doing had to be worth my time. For example, if I am fighting a $5 overcharge on my energy bill, but I’m worth the said $100/hr, I probably shouldn’t take very long before it’s really not “worth” my time. However, I should take longer to fight the overage of $50 on my internet bill because it’s more worth my time.

    Of course, those hours aren’t paid hours (as I’m obviously not doing that on my work time), but I was always taught to take it into consideration when doing something that would supposedly save me some money in the end. I could take the bus to work, but that would mean over almost 120 minutes (2 hours) out of my day between riding the bus and then waiting before work after the bus has dropped me off and after work before the bus picks me up. I have very little I can do in that area of town as far as errands, etc., so that time is essentially “lost” time for me — other than I can read on the bus, but there is no where in the area to wait before/after work, so then I’m on lost time just standing around. Technically, taking the bus costs me more real money per week anyway (bus fair, in the end, costs more than driving each day, unfortunately), so if it’s also costing me more time as well, I’m really losing. (Getting to work/home via car costs me 30-35 minutes per day total.)

    However! (Of course there is a further discussion here. How could I be succinct for once? *winks*) I don’t really think like this when it comes to running errands that I would have to do no matter what. I don’t consider my time-worth when I’m grocery shopping or when I’m just spending time with my husband. Certain things are worth all the time and money in the world (not grocery shopping, obviously) but others are necessary evils of maintaining a household. I certainly WISH someone would pay me to clean my own house, pay my own bills, and cook my own meals; however, I’m not that lucky. *sniffs* Those are just a part of life. But definitely those things that are supposed to “save” me money? I have to take into account the cost of my own time when I work on that. (And trying to get that $5 off my energy bill? Yeah, that would’ve taken me several hours worth of work, and I know for several reasons it won’t happen month after month. If it were a long-term issue that would happen again and again, it would definitely be more worth my time to figure out. For example, I would’ve been overcharged each month on that internet bill, so in the long-term view it was definitely worth my time.)

    jess  |  October 7th, 2008 at 10:02 pm

  • Whoa, sorry about how long that looks, Mir!

    jess  |  October 7th, 2008 at 10:03 pm

  • I think you are doing it because you are driven, and because your writing skills are giving you a taste of the notion that when you are your own boss the sky is limit on how much you want to put it and get out. I think you could train yourself to stop it. You likely have a set target of how many billable hours to do per week. You must already track how many billable hours you have done each day. When you find yourself evaluating things on an hourly basis, try to just refer mentally to the fact that you know you are on target for the week.

    I am just a lowly employee, :) but I try to tell myself that if I am not on the clock don’t worry about it. I have earned the mental health break and can’t solve a work problem at home anyway. I know you don’t have that luxury in such a grand fashion as boss, but as far as calculating everything in an hourly rate I think you deserve a break.

    Lindsay  |  October 7th, 2008 at 11:07 pm

  • I do the same thing. I am an attorney, but I work from home on a contract basis. I find it comes up most when I am waiting on a doctor to fan the flames of my indignation at being made to wait so long.

    It also comes up for me, like CuriousParty said above, when I think about something that needs to be done around the house. It’s how I justify having a housecleaning service. It takes less time for them to clean the house than it takes me, and I can work the 5-6 hours I would have otherwise spent cleaning. So what I pay them is significantly less than what I can make by working instead of cleaning.

    Jill W.  |  October 8th, 2008 at 1:54 pm

  • In my previous job, my hourly rate was about $800. OK, we gave some folks a discount so they were only paying $700 or so per hour. (No, I wasn’t getting most of it!!) It took some time to get used to the idea that correcting my own formula mistake for 20 minutes could cost my client $200 or so. But then I figured, I was bringing them value and nobody could do it better than me. Their bottom line was going up despite paying my fees, so at least there was justification from their side. From my side, I had the comfort of knowing that it wasn’t making me rich, it was just offsetting my bosses’ bad hiring decisions and such.

    So anyway, now in my partnership, my billing rate is a lot less. But still not small change. I am glad that I got used to thinking about my work as having hourly value. Because to the extent that my work is valuable and billable, I don’t have to work as many hours to justify the guaranteed payment I receive. If I do four hours of billable work and only get paid the equivalent of two hours of client fees, then I can relax a little about the rest of the day.

    I don’t really care much about earning money. I have enough saved up from my very frugal, childless, workaholic days. Ideally, I make enough to pay my nanny, meet my kids’ basic needs, and put a little in the bank each month. Beyond that, money does not motivate me. Hence I prioritize based on what I really want to do. I could get out of some grocery shopping trips, but I really like going to the organic food store 30 miles away. It’s an experience that I value with my girls. I actually asked my partners to reduce my pay so I could do things I care about without guilt. Honestly, if the business could tolerate my working fewer hours, I’d take even less pay.

    I am pretty frugal, yet I don’t waste a lot of time trying to save pennies here and there. I try to do things right so I don’t have the cost of doing them over. But, my opportunity cost may not be money as much as relaxation or sleep.

    SKL  |  October 8th, 2008 at 3:18 pm

  • I’m not a freelancer, but I don’t clip coupons because the money daved vs. the time spent just isn’t worth my time (there are not often coupons for things I actually buy).

    I used to do this with every job where I had a loooong commute (which was pretty much every job I’ve had), calculating how much of my time had been wasted driving to/from work and how much money I should have been paid for it, until I got myself all worked up!

    Brigitte  |  October 10th, 2008 at 5:37 am

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