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Prepping Myself for Daycare

Categories: Work/Life


cribBaby is leaving the nest!

It is time. Time for baby to go to daycare. And I have very mixed feelings about it.

I realize how lucky I am to be able to work from home with a babysitter watching baby for four hours every morning while other mothers have no choice but to go back to work outside of the home, I probably have complained more than I’ve counted my blessings.

Four hours is not enough time to realistically scratch the surface of my workload, but I can’t really afford to spend more. Now that the prospect of taking her somewhere and leaving her for eight hours sounds good on paper, but I’m beginning to dread the day she goes.

I know I’m not the only one who has mixed feelings over baby going to daycare, but my situation is different in that she doesn’t have to go. I’m just enrolling her because I think it will be good for her. Okay, sure, I’ll admit to a touch of selfishness - I mean what workaholic wouldn’t want their 8 hour workweek back? I’m already imagining all the things I could actually get done.

I’ve also been feeling very guilty about not having enough friends with kids her age and the ones I do have (two) are always so busy (overachiever workaholic types, like me) and that means baby is lucky to get one playdate a week. Sure I take her to Baby Gym every Tuesday morning and try to get my butt to the gym to work out at least once a week which gives her a chance to play with the kids in the playcenter there. I feel it is my fault that she is so isolated. Daycare helps relieve me of this guilt.

In a way, almost every reason for putting her into daycare is selfish other than this one:

She really needs interaction with other kids.

Have I mentioned that we’re actually not fully enrolled in daycare yet? We’re just on the waiting list, but they keep promising me each week they’ll be able to get her in sometime in early May.

But what if they can’t? Our steady babysitter is gone most of May so that could put a big wrench in my plans to catch up on all my work and get my business running like a well-oiled machine. Darn those reputable daycare centers with mile-long waiting lists. I should have signed up before baby was born like some of my other overachieving friends did!

All in all, I’m expecting to shed a few tears the first days I leave her at daycare. Then I’ll pick up a latte on the way home and immerse myself in my work. Hopefully the heartache won’t last.

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4 comments so far...

  • awww your last sentence is an accurate prediction :) it is hard to leave them but they love it and that makes it easier. i don’t normally take my son to daycare (hubby does, it’s at his office) but circumstances required it on Monday - i was so nervous! And he has been there for a year and a half now! But it’s one thing to say ‘bye bye!’ when the kiddo is in the car with daddy, entirely different to actually leave him at daycare! And he is used to daddy, what if he clings to mommy?

    we got there, he said ‘ bye’ and went off to play. very anti-climactic. I was still a little stunned when I stopped for my latte and enjoyed the rest of my hour long commute thinking about how happy he is there and that is the right decision for us :)

    Kate  |  March 13th, 2008 at 6:36 pm

  • We do the daycare thing twice a week with my older daughter. My younger one is an angel while I work and not a daycare baby so she is at home with me. Just do what ever works for your family. I call my 3 year old sometimes when she’s there, and she tells me she’s still playing she doesn’t want to leave. It’s easy to do the work-life balance when you have your own business. You’re going to love it.

    It will all work out.


    Nicole Slacik  |  March 18th, 2008 at 4:32 am

  • I love the idea of creative daycare!
    Calling, going some days and not others, doing what works for your family. Those are such cool ideas! You know how they let parents go to school with the kids sometimes? I was wondering is they had days like that when moms could go to daycare?

    Whatever you do, Aliza, best wishes!!

    Annemarie  |  March 18th, 2008 at 6:58 am

  • Hi Aliza :)

    I am facing the exact same problem right now with my darling just about to be 2 year old baby girl…She still nurses a LOT, and we co-sleep and have basically never been separated except for a 2 hour shopping trip with my 12 year old daughter when I left her with one of my best friends and her little boy. She did fine with them, and only started crying during the last 1/2 hour. I tried taking her to the nursery at church today for the Easter service, but she cried ‘Mommy, Mommy’ for almost 10 minutes straight, so I decided we’d try again next week. I am so nervous about taking her to daycare…I am trying to find a job right now in a daycare center just so I can at least be near her…

    Dorothy  |  March 24th, 2008 at 4:13 am