The number one question I get asked when people find out that I work full-time (the majority of which is outside of the home) is “How do you do it all?” I always have a lot on my plate. I work a high-stress job in the high-stress field of software, hold a position on my son’s preschool Board of Directors, write regularly on four different blogs, and cook a meal every night. Somewhere in between I do my best to find ample quality time to spend with my son whether it is fighting for a flexible schedule or taking a afternoon off to head to the zoo. I’m like a duck who looks calm and collected on the surface but whos legs are frantically moving underneath.
Sometimes I think I do too good of a job at making it look easy. I won’t easily admit how many times I’ve cried in the bathroom at work from missing my son, times I’ve lashed out at my family for an issue related to work, or had felt so overwhelmed that all I can do it sit on the couch and veg out. It’s much easier to look like the calm, collected Super Mom Project Manager than to admit that I don’t have my act together. Most days I am flying my the seat of pants with my blackberry in one hand and my child’s hand in the other.
The truth is, I don’t “do it all.” We have a regular housekeeper, we have lots of family in our area that support us tremendously, I haven’t stepped foot in a gym in two years. I’m hardly “doing it all.” There are moments where I feel that my juggle between work and home is as balanced as a house of cards - all it will take it one gust of wind for it all to fall apart.
I’ve come to the realization that I don’t have to do it all. I’m just doing it. “It” being whatever needs my attention most whether its my son, my project, the unpaid bills on the counter, the fridge that needs stocking, or that laundry that needs laundering.
Well maybe not the laundry. That, my friends, rarely get my attention.