If there was any lesson to be learned in 2008, it was learning that balance is bunk for a working mom. I like to think that I had it all together… but on any given day something was neglected in order for me to get my job done. That job includes being an employee, a mom, a wife, and all those other roles that I wear like friend, daughter, blogger, writer, short-order cook, vacation scheduler, play-date organizer, and bill-payer.
I’m still learning that juggling almost always means putting down a ball or two in order to protect the other balls I’m juggling. I’ve learned the power of saying no - both in work and in my personal life - mainly from the consequences of always saying yes. After getting extremely sick in during November, I realized that I was slowly killing myself by trying to DO IT ALL. I had gained weight, resented obligations, and was generally unhappy. With myself. I certainly couldn’t blame others for the commitments I made to them.
Something has to change. And I am the only one who can change it.
I don’t believe in New Years Resolutions and my new personal objectives are not resolutions. I’m taking baby steps to make changes for life. This isn’t a fad diet. It’s taking account of ALL of the things and prioritized it in a way that doesn’t leave me over-extended, bitter, or putting my needs last. It means saying no when appropriate, un-plugging during off hours, giving undivided attention to my family, and living a fulfilling life.
Having it all is no longer my mission. Less really is more. I am only one person. I cannot do it all. I can’t even come close. So by setting realistic expectations, by giving myself measurable goals, and by being aware of my tendency to be everything to everyone, I am setting a new course.
Mission Impossible: Having it “all.” Mission Possible: Redefining “all” to be what I want “all” to be.