Full Time, All the Time

with Britt Reints

Forget the 9 to 5; the demands of a working mom aren’t limited by a time clock. Full Time, All the Time is a blog about balancing the many roles of a modern woman - and maintaining your wellbeing while doing it. I am a writer, mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend and sometimes volunteer living in Pittsburgh. Oh, and I think you look pretty today.

You can also find Britt on Twitter and at InPursuitOfHappiness.net.

Can you share one good thing today?

Categories: Uncategorized, balance, office life

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Last year was, to put it bluntly, spectacularly awful for me.  While 2010 hasn’t been perfect,  I’ve found myself in a good place more often than not.  Thousands of dollars in counseling and therapy can do that for a person, I guess.

As a lifestyle blogger, I chronicled a good portion of the suckage that was 2009 and I was very fortunate to receive a ton of support from the Internet.  However, as life has improved over the past several months, I’ve noticed a disturbing pattern: I have less to say and less desire to say it when I’m happy.

Bad news, it seems, is easier to share than good news.

A mental scan of conversations with other people reveals that this is a common phenomenon that goes beyond blogging.  My phone conversations with my mother are much longer if I’ve had a bad day.  My chats with co-workers are brief when they’re upbeat. When I worked in a corporate office environment, work could not begin until everyone shared at least one complaint.  It was very rare for someone to come to a morning meeting with a smile on their face and cheerful reports.  And the one guy that did?  Was annoying.  To everyone.

Why do we do this?  Why do so many of us keep our bliss to ourselves, but openly share our stresses?

I know that when there is negativity in my life, it can feel like it is literally inside of me - and sharing helps to physically get those yucky vibes out.  When I’m feeling good, there isn’t a toxic feeling I need to purge.

I also tend to resist oversharing good news because I assume that no one wants to hear the positive stuff.  I mean, no one likes a braggart, right?  Who wants to listen to someone go on and on and on about how happy they are?

Except… I do.  Some of my favorite people in this world are people who are constantly talking about how happy they are.  It seems like the people I enjoy most seek out reasons to feel successful, and hearing about their little wins always brightens my day.

Perhaps the world could use a little more good news, even if it’s mine.  I’d like to make a point of being a positive presence in my workplace and social circles.  I want to invest just as much energy sharing the happy as I do sharing the sad - if not more energy.

Are you remembering to invest as much time, energy and conversation into the good as you do with the bad? Next time you’re at the water cooler, tell your co-worker about that really great thing your kids of spouse did.  Share your most recent success in the comments.  If you’re on twitter, take a moment to share #1goodthing about your day.  Share the happy!

Photo of my grandfather on his 80th birthday.



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7 comments so far...

  • It’s for that same reason that I try to compliment good service just as frequently as I complain about bad service.

    Avitable  |  June 23rd, 2010 at 5:24 am

  • I think I’d like your grandpa. There is more than one picture of me out there doing the same thing. I hope I’m doing it when I’m 80. 90. 100!

    I’ve found the same thing you have. It seems much easier to craft a post when I’m trying to work something out then when things are good, like they are now.

    So what’s good? I had my first post-vacation workout today. I managed to get up on time, have a killer workout and get home early. Life, she is good. :)

    Finn  |  June 23rd, 2010 at 6:53 am

  • Oh, man. I am definitely guilty of that. Complaining seems to be so easy.

    Jared  |  June 23rd, 2010 at 8:04 am

  • My kids are awesome. (So are yours!)

    I got a good night’s sleep two days in a row!!

    I’m ahead of schedule on a couple of projects.

    SKL  |  June 23rd, 2010 at 8:06 am

  • My good things today:
    I’m on schedule with my runs
    I’m more positive today than yesterday
    I’ve talked to my two best friends today
    And yes, my kid is absolutely awesome :).

    Maria  |  June 23rd, 2010 at 1:34 pm

  • good things that happened today:
    i woke up healthy!
    the kids are well behaved!
    i got to work on time!

    its the small things that count!!!!

    shirleypen  |  June 24th, 2010 at 11:19 am

  • My son finally learned to swim completely unassisted this weekend.
    I did not pig out and over eat crap.
    My husband got his first order from the website that he has been working on.

    Yippee for all.

    Oceans Mom  |  June 28th, 2010 at 8:19 am

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