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Full Time, All the Time

with Britt Reints

Forget the 9 to 5; the demands of a working mom aren’t limited by a time clock. Full Time, All the Time is a blog about balancing the many roles of a modern woman - and maintaining your wellbeing while doing it. I am a writer, mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend and sometimes volunteer living in Pittsburgh. Oh, and I think you look pretty today.

You can also find Britt on Twitter and at InPursuitOfHappiness.net.

Do you even want a promotion?

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There’s a plethora of advice available on how to get ahead in your career. Whether you work for a Fortune 500 company or own your own one-woman-show, you can find tips on every magazine rack about how to climb higher and earn more.

But have you ever stopped to think if you really want to move up in your career?

A few months ago, my husband was asked if he’d be interested in moving into management with a company for which he subcontracts. It could have meant more stability in an employee position. I have no idea if it would have meant more money; my husband didn’t ask before saying no. It’s not that he’s uninterested in making more money, but he’s not working in a job that he loves or a field that he’s passionate about. He’s moved up in the ranks in this industry before and realizes that he needs to start thinking about an exit strategy instead of a promotional one.

Last week I was offered an amazing business opportunity with a potential partner. The deal would have probably meant more clients and the ability to charge higher rates. But I’ve been asking myself lately if I want more clients and the additional work that comes with them, even if that means more money. I don’t know that I do.

I realize that I’m very fortunate to be in a position where I can even ask these questions. I remember all too clearly thinking that any money from anywhere would keep us one step farther from the uncomfortably close edge. I’m exceedingly grateful to no longer be there.

But I wonder if many of us aren’t there, and yet aren’t exactly sure where we are, either.

I wonder if we stop and do a gut check often enough, asking ourselves if we want to go farther down the path we’re currently on or higher up this particular ladder.

Or do we just keep advancing because that’s what we’re supposed to do?

As women, we’ve come along way for us to even be having this discussion. Many women are still fighting, knocking and chipping away at a glass ceiling that we’re told isn’t there. I get that. And if a woman wants a promotion, or a raise, or an increase in responsibility, I want her to be able to earn that. Absolutely.

I just want us to know what we want and why we want it. I want to make sure I’m questioning my own motives all the time, mindful of the societal pressures to continuously achieve. Before I go after the next big thing, I need to be certain that it’s a big thing worth having.

What about you? Do you ever find yourself on achievement autopilot?

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  • I’m not looking to climb anywhere right now. I wouldn’t mind scaling back a bit, actually. I’ve been through life stages when promotions and raises were important, and maybe I will feel that way again someday. I’m lucky to have a job that does not pressure me to compete to move ahead.

    SKL  |  May 4th, 2011 at 11:26 am

  • If I had been on autopilot, I’d be a Creative Director in some ad agency somewhere right now, probably throwing up every morning before work because I couldn’t take dealing with client bullshit all day, every day (and sometimes into the night).

    I could be making a lot more money, but I love my freedom and flexibility. And distinct lack of manufactured stress.

    Megan  |  May 4th, 2011 at 11:30 am

  • I’m 8+ mos pregnant and I have a 2 year old. I’m definitely on promotion cruise control for at least 2 years! I make more money now than I ever have in my career and my husband just got a hefty raise so I pretty much don’t care anything about a promotion or a raise at this point in my life LOL.

    ACL  |  May 5th, 2011 at 12:21 pm

  • Absolutely. I’ve reached the difficult point - longer hours without enough money to get the quality child care to make them happen. A promotion means getting the money to work those hours with less stress about what goes on at home.

    Mich  |  May 6th, 2011 at 1:50 pm

  • I remember the first time I took a noticeable pay cut to buy more balance and time at home with my family. That big step lead to an even bigger step to leave any guaranteed salary to start working for myself. The gradual steps and rationalizing became leaps of faith and the launch http://www.sitterpals.com.

    Regardless of anyone’s decision, you have the benefits and the sacrifices. They are for each to choose which direction they will take!

    Amanda Armstrong - Sitter Pals  |  May 9th, 2011 at 10:23 pm

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