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Full Time, All the Time

with Britt Reints

Forget the 9 to 5; the demands of a working mom aren’t limited by a time clock. Full Time, All the Time is a blog about balancing the many roles of a modern woman - and maintaining your wellbeing while doing it. I am a writer, mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend and sometimes volunteer living in Pittsburgh. Oh, and I think you look pretty today.

You can also find Britt on Twitter and at InPursuitOfHappiness.net.

I need to do it all - before noon

Categories: balance, the juggle, working mobile, working mom

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One of the things I appreciate about my lifestyle - that of a digital nomad who lives and works on the road full time - is that I am pretty much the boss of everything. I decide when I’ll work, play, and sleep. I pick which projects I’ll work on and which I’ll turn down. I get to choose whether I’ll accept or negotiate deadlines. I eat breakfast at noon if I want and have no consequences for spending the entire day in my pajamas. As you might imagine, it takes a fair amount of self discipline to keep this train on the tracks, what with no one waiting to tell me what to do.

I tend to keep that train moving by focusing first on activities that pay me. Specifically, I start my day with the highest paying tasks and move on down the list according to dollar amount and proximity of deadline. This perfectly sounds logical, yes?

Unfortunately, no one pays me to brush my teeth.

Or eat breakfast. Or lunch.

Yoga is also on the freebie list.

Family time can actually cost me money, but not as much as therapy or marriage counseling, and so I’ve learned to make those relationships a priority.

But the job of taking care of myself? It consistently falls to the bottom of the list.

It’s not that I don’t understand the importance of self care or that I don’t think I’m worth it. L’Oreal and experience have taught me that I am worth it, baby. I also know that taking care of myself is the best way to ensure I have the energy to do what I need for both my work and my family.

And yet…

Lately my self care has come in the form of collapsing on a couch at the end of the work day and engaging in a Weeds marathon (the show, not the drug.)

I wake up in the morning with a to-do list in my head and I’m immediately anxious about getting everything done. I have to make the donuts! I can’t concentrate on making breakfast and I’m too distracted to do even a few sun salutations without checking my email (which is inevitably full of more things to do.) I do brush my teeth and pour myself a cup of coffee, but then I hit the laptop running.

I’m pretty sure this isn’t the best routine for me, but I’m at a loss for how to fix it.

Part of the problem is that I’m at my best in the morning. My brain is firing on all cylinders when I first wake up, whereas I’m totally useless after about 3 pm. However, if I wait until 3pm to shower, eat properly, or do any kind of exercise, I’m likely to just skip those things all together. I’m wiped out from all the mental work I’ve already done!

What I need is for morning to be a little longer.

Any idea where I can pick up some extra morning at a discount this holiday season?

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  • You won’t like this answer, but you have to get up a bit earlier, then ban yourself from working until a certain hour. I used to have my Mac set to turn itself on at 9 am. I would get up, work out, shower, dress, eat breakfast, feed the baby (this was a long time ago) and get him settled, then set to work.

    I am at my best in mid to late morning as well, so I made sure I got the important stuff done right away and left “housekeeping” stuff for last.

    With you, I think you have to discipline yourself to compartmentalize “work” in a certain time frame, and “you” in another. Lately I’ve been having some trouble doing that, but I’m reigning myself in before I burn out. You have to set boundries for yourself and enforce them (or get someone else to enforce them for you).

    Megan  |  December 14th, 2011 at 12:59 pm

  • my only suggestion is similar to megan’s: go to bed earlier and get up earlier. you know you are a morning person, so embrace it. (obviously would help if jared would keep a similar schedule.)
    also, i go to an office from 8 - 5, usually staying over a bit (up to a rare maximum of 7 pm). then the dog *must* go out and i *must* go home. i’m done. can you set “office hours” for yourself?

    hello haha narf  |  December 14th, 2011 at 2:21 pm

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