Ever since my son was born, I’ve fought hard to break working mom myths. I worked harder than ever to avoid the mommy-track by keeping focused at work. Then at home, I tried to become “Mother of the Year” by making every meal, baking birthday cupcakes from scratch, and keeping a tidy home (alright, I utterly failed on that last one).
After suffering from balance burnout last year, I’ve started making some changes in my life. One of those was to stop focusing on the stuff that I’m not doing (and stop feeling guilty about it) and to start thinking positive about the stuff that I do accomplish.
The Upside to Being a Working Mom
- Since my spouse and I both work, we have “double coverage” for our son’s health insurance. That means no out of pocket costs for any trips to the doctor.
- My son barely watches any TV and has an active imagination, thanks in part, to a play-based preschool that he attend during the day while I work.
- We can afford a weekly housekeeper which means that while I fail to keep a tidy house, we can still have a tidy house.
- My spouse and I both have retirement plans and contribute to a college savings plan for our son. Living in Silicon Valley, if we were on one income I’m not sure we could afford either.
- My son sees both mom and dad going to work. We are both setting a positive example and showing the fruits of our labor from getting college degrees. My son already understands that one day he’ll have a career too.
- I feel better about myself when I work and financially support my family.
- My company pays for my BlackBerry, laptop, and internet fees. That’s a huge savings every year.
What about you? What’s on your list that makes you feel good about being a working mom?