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Full Time, All the Time

with Britt Reints

Forget the 9 to 5; the demands of a working mom aren’t limited by a time clock. Full Time, All the Time is a blog about balancing the many roles of a modern woman - and maintaining your wellbeing while doing it. I am a writer, mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend and sometimes volunteer living in Pittsburgh. Oh, and I think you look pretty today.

You can also find Britt on Twitter and at InPursuitOfHappiness.net.

Give Yourself Permission To Slack Off This Holiday Season

Categories: balance, holidays, mommy guilt

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el que senties per nadalWe’re only a few days from Halloween. Thanksgiving is less than one month away. According to my math, that leaves 56 shopping days until Christmas.

Does that fill you with glee or dread?

If you’re already practicing the perfect turkey brine and your homemade centerpieces are drying in your craft room, then this article may be completely worthless to you. If, however, if you have more ideas pins than projects started and you’re suddenly wishing you would have started budgeting for gifts a few months ago… I understand.

And I’d like to tell you that you can still enjoy the next couple months of holiday mania.
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How To Balance Achieving With Appreciating

Categories: balance, mommy guilt, office life, working mom

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Nowhere to go As a working mom, I often feel like I get conflicting information. For example, I’m supposed to be sexy for my husband, but gender-neutral in a boardroom. (Hypothetically; I’ve never actually worked in a boardroom.) The advice we get on how to succeed also seems to contradict what we’re told we need to do in order to be happy.

In order to be successful, we’re supposed to set goals and have a forward-facing outlook.

In order to be happy, we’re supposed to focus on the present and be grateful for where we are right now .
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The power of one-on-one parenting

Categories: break from reality, mommy guilt

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I just returned from a 5-day trip to Orlando with my teenager, a trip I have been looking forward to since the moment he agreed to travel with me. It was everything I’d hoped it would be and more. We spent five blissful days communicating, hanging out, playing together, and not fighting. He talked to me, he laughed at my jokes, and he shared things with me - all activities that have been missing from our relationship since the onset of puberty.

In part, I have VisitOrlando, the Nickelodeon Suites Resort, Universal Studios, and SeaWorld to thank for this experience. They organized the trip and picked up the tab for most of our visit. They let my son and I share the magic of Harry Potter World, a real treat since we’d read the books together years ago. They provided the pool that he asked me to swim with him in, the rides we loved, and the shows we swapped opinions about.

But the real credit for this fabulous vacation goes to me and Devin - and the power of one-on-one parenting.
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Parents of teens are the loneliest parents of all

Categories: mommy guilt

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We all have secrets.I had finally hit my stride as a parent. When I heard friends with younger children talk about how worried they were about messing things up or getting things wrong, I realized just how far I’d come since those early days of constant self doubt. Although I had no illusions about getting it all right, I was finally confident enough to say I was a good mother. And then my oldest became a teenager.

Pride cometh before a fall, and confidence cometh before a teenager.

I’m only officially a few months into this new stage - although the teen attitude started several months before the 13th birthday - and I’m already completely exhausted from the experience. One of the worst parts, and perhaps the most unexpected struggle, is how alone I feel in it.
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How to find help for our kids

Categories: mommy guilt, the juggle

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Reach out I intended for Friday, December 14, 2012 to be all about celebrating my child becoming a teenager. Instead, it was the day that 20 first graders were killed in a small Connecticut town. In the days since, there has been a lot of talk about why this tragedy happened and how we might prevent it from happening again. This space is largely unsuited for most of those discussions. However, there has been one topic, something President Obama even mentioned during his speech in Newtown Sunday night , about which I can write: how to get help raising your kids.

We all need help.
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Why I’m not excited about my kids going back to school

Categories: mommy guilt, vacation

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East Dawn Schoolhouse I have faced the last seven autumns with giddy anticipation. Back to school has always meant a return to my normal schedule , something it seems most parents appreciate more the longer a school vacation runs. But for the first time in my own parenting history, I am actually dreading the return to normal.

Perhaps it is because we have been away from normal for so long.
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3 things I’d do differently as a parent

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Modern Times?I don’t like to spend a lot of time bemoaning choices I made in the past. It is, for the most part, a waste of mental energy - it’s not like my regret can propel me back in time so that I can do things differently. Furthermore, I believe that each day presents an opportunity to make new choices; it’s never too late to create the life you want, blah blah blah. However, as my kids get older (my oldest is going to be in junior high), I do find that there are some parenting choices I regret, choices that aren’t always easy to undo in the here and now.
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Is trying our best really enough?

Categories: Uncategorized, mommy guilt

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We tell our children that we don’t expect perfection, that it’s effort that is being measured, but are we misleading them? Are we misleading ourselves by pretending results don’t matter? I’m biting my tongue a lot in front of my kids so as not to dissuade their belief in trying, but I’m not so sure that’s best for any of us.
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Do You Have an Emergency Plan on the Road?

Categories: mommy guilt, the new office

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Ah, the mobile lifestyle. So glamorous. So bohemian. So new agey and hip and now.

So, I spent last night sleeping on the concrete floor of a handicap bathroom. No one in my family is handicapped, but it was the largest unoccupied space in the bath house of the campground where we’re currently “living”, which allowed my entire family of four to huddle on the same floor together.

Technically, my husband and kids slept while I laid awake listening to the storm rage outside. My body has become too accustomed to memory foam to be able to sleep on a concrete floor, even with the hasty padding of a king-size comforter that was wrapped burrito style around us. The three of them were exhausted after the 1:30 am wake-up call that came from pounding rain, blinding lightning, and howling wind that actually shook the RV, exhausted enough to fall asleep once we’d relocated to the safest place I could think of when the watches turned to warnings on my iPhone’s weather app.
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What makes your kids feel secure?

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One of the coolest things about a mobile lifestyle is the constant change. The scenery outside my window is different from one week to the next, giving me plenty of opportunities to explore, discover, and try new things. I never get bored.

As a mother, however, the constant change becomes a challenge to overcome.

According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, security is one of our most basic needs, trumped only by our physiological need for food, shelter and sleep. Maslow argues that a sense of security is even more important than the need for love (which - woah. I’ll definitely be thinking more about that.) For children, their necessary sense of security can be threatened by constant change.
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