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Full Time, All the Time

with Britt Reints

Forget the 9 to 5; the demands of a working mom aren’t limited by a time clock. Full Time, All the Time is a blog about balancing the many roles of a modern woman - and maintaining your wellbeing while doing it. I am a writer, mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend and sometimes volunteer living in Pittsburgh. Oh, and I think you look pretty today.

You can also find Britt on Twitter and at InPursuitOfHappiness.net.

Coming to terms with what my kids won’t have

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When my husband and I decided to move from Iowa to Florida a few years ago, we knew that meant giving our children a different growing up experience than we had. Instead of snow days and piles of leaves, they’d have beaches and possible hurricane evacuations. We considered it a fair trade. These days we’re asking our kids to give up even more, and I’m not always sure I’m comfortable with our decision.
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Helping my kids cope with change

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This week has been filled with painful lessons in letting go and saying goodbye. As I’ve struggled to navigate the heartache myself, I’ve also had to face helping my kids cope with change.

There’s no denying that change is hard. While choosing change is usually easier than having it thrust upon you, there are still sacrifices to be made. In our case, our family is choosing to leave people we love so that we can travel for a year. Four years ago we made a similar decision in order to move to a bigger city in a warmer state. In both instances we were excited about the adventures ahead of us, but we cried buckets over the relationships that would be significantly changed by distance.


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Advice to Moms Going Back To Work

Categories: Parenting Tips and Tricks for the working mom, balance, mommy guilt, the juggle, working mom

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I watched a beautiful video yesterday that asked moms what advice they would give themselves if they could go back in time to right before their first child was born.  The video was a gorgeous montage of varied answers that ranged from “sleep now” to “forgive yourself”.  My personal favorite was a sign that read “you are the expert”.

It got me thinking about other times in my life when I could have used some advice from women who had gone before me: my first day at a new school, the last day I went to college, our first argument after my wedding, that time I thought I could pull off the pixie haircut .  All of these moments could have been made just a little easier with some words of encouragement and wisdom.

Another milestone in my life as a woman, specifically as a working mother, when I could have used a little hand holding was when I went back to work after having my babies.  Ouch.  The heartbreak of dropping them off, the giddiness at having adult conversations during the day, the guilt at enjoying adult conversations and being overly tired at night; I was not prepared for either return to the workforce.


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Finding the time to exercise

Categories: balance, mommy guilt, the juggle

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Before I became a mother, I was an avid exerciser.  I worked out in the company gym with my work best friend nearly every day of the week.  On weekends, I would take a 3-5 mile walk with a girlfriend.  I weighed a good 40 pounds less than I do now and was fit.  Not like Jillian Michaels fit.  But I was healthy.  And active.  And my ass didn’t have it own zip code.

When I was pregnant with my son, I lost all my energy.  The third person I shared our good news with was my VP.  I was so tired that I was falling asleep at my desk every afternoon.  So I asked to be able to work from home after lunch.  He was so wonderful about it and agreed.  Good-bye working-out every afternoon.  Hello 2 hour nap!

It didn’t help either that my pregnancy cravings were nacho cheese, thin mints, and pancakes.  I was ballooning and quickly.  I gained 20 pounds in the first half of the pregnancy.  When my son was born, I had packed on nearly 60 pounds.  I always thought that I’d be one of those moms that quickly bounces back into her pre-pregnancy sizes.  Reality is my pre-pregnancy clothes are still hanging in my closet nearly six years later.
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