Can we talk a little about what we did for Father’s Day THIS year, so that we can refer to it NEXT year? I’d wanted to do a post on Father’s Day gift ideas last week, but I felt too discouraged, and also Paul reads here sometimes and I didn’t want to give away his gift idea. And of course all the store gift ideas are like “Barbecue! Golf! Beer! Sports! Tools! Here’s the perfect idea but it’s $250!”
I was lucky this year, because I thought of an idea for something I wanted to get ANYWAY for Paul, and Father’s Day was only a month or so away so I bought it and put it aside.
Wireless Remote Locator (photo from Amazon.com). Paul is continually getting frustrated at not being able to find the remote, and I am continually getting frustrated about the frustrated searching, so this is really a gift for BOTH of us. There is a risk, of course, of losing the remote finder—but I plan to NAIL IT TO
HIS HAND THE WALL.
For my own dad, I got a copy of Boarding the Enterprise: Transporters, Tribbles, and the Vulcan Death Grip (photo from Amazon.com) and a bag of pecan-pie-flavored pecans.
I’m trying to remember what I’ve done other years. One year I got Paul a grill, but the gift in that case wasn’t really the grill (which was a household item we’d agreed to acquire, and also too expensive for what we do for Mother’s/Father’s Day) but rather the handling the research/purchase of it and asking my dad to set it up. (Actually, I think I also had my dad do the research.) (And he might have also been the one to pick it up at the store, now that I think of it.) (BUT I’M THE ONE WHO ASKED HIM TO.)
Most years for Paul I do my favorite idea, which is to have the kids each choose one treat-like item (candy, gum, chips, nuts). Even with the occasional known misstep (a younger child insists on getting him a certain candy, for example, even when I explain that No, Daddy Doesn’t Like That Kind, YOU Like That Kind), with five children there’s bound to be SOME things Paul likes. And it makes a good exercise for the kids: here we are in the candy aisle, but we are NOT THINKING OF OURSELVES. (Or maybe we will think of ourselves for just ONE little bag to share on the way home in the car.)
Or, in our family we do online wish lists, so sometimes I can choose something from there. Just as I try desperately to find a love/heart tie-in for a Valentine’s Day gift, I scan his list for a tool/dad/beer tie-in for a Father’s Day gift.
Or sometimes I find that what I want from Paul on Mother’s Day is (1) getting to sleep in, even a little bit, (2) having some time in the house by myself, even a short time, (3) having someone else do a chore or two that would usually be mine, and (4) various other small considerate things. So I try to keep those sorts of things in mind on Father’s Day.
I suggest we pool ALL our ideas here and now, and next year I will write a lovely and thoughtful post in time for us to USE them.