Oh look, May 10th is just around the corner! My favorite time of year, the day I get pampered, served breakfast in bed, showered with gifts, and . . . what? Sorry, was my sarcastic snorting and eye-rolling distracting you?
In 2006 my husband claimed he didn’t realize that Mother’s Day was a “real” holiday. In 2007 he said he thought Mother’s Day presents should be given to me by my child, and since said child wasn’t old enough to do so yet, uh, sorry honey. In 2008 he handed me one of his furniture-making periodicals and announced he had a little something extra for me that day (note: the name of the magazine was “WOOD”).
He doesn’t exactly have a stellar track record with this holiday, is what I’m saying. To his partial credit, our wedding anniversary is on May 5 and I’m sure it’s difficult to remember that he’s supposed to turn right around and be all nice to me AGAIN just a few days later, but jeez, come on. Mother of your children over here! Carried them in my body! Have permanent belly-flap as a result!
Well, my husband may need a little prodding when it comes to a good gift idea (babe? Spa gift certificate. Click, buy, bada-boom bada-bing you’re done) but at least he didn’t do what the husband of a friend of mine did, which was to look confused on the day in question and say, “What, I’m supposed to get YOU something? But you’re not my mother!”
Have you ever received a Mother’s Day gift that made you weep—like, not the tears-of-joy kind, but the oh-my-god-my-partner-is-clueless kind? Share your worst Mother’s Day gift story in the comments, and next week we’ll randomly pick a winner to receive a $25 Amazon gift certificate. Hey, now you’ve got a shot at getting something you actually want this year.
I got married on Mother’s Day 10 years ago this May. I usually get a combined anniversary gift or nothing at all.
divrchk | April 29th, 2009 at 8:11 pm
Oh, man, I’m going to cheat (so take me out of the running if need be!) but I have to share this story, and now is as good a time as any. For Valentine’s Day (we can pretend it was Mother’s Day), I came home from work with a very nice present for my husband in tow (a framed print from a photographer he loved) and he had … nothing. So, I sort of look at him, puzzled, assuming he’s got the gift hiding somewhere. Diamond earrings could be easy to hide, right? Then he goes on and on about how he wanted to get me a massage but didn’t want to book it himself because what if I had big, important, couldn’t-be-canceled plans? So, he looked up a place near our home and gave me the number to make my own appointment. I looked at him, long and hard, and said, “So for Valentine’s Day you gave me permission to get a massage?” Yeah, he did better the next year.
She Likes Purple | April 29th, 2009 at 9:02 pm
I got a vaginal tear! Does that count?
I had my daughter on Mother’s Day weekend in 2006 and since I was 5 weeks early and she was supposed to be small, the OB didn’t give me an episiotomy. She was almost 7 pounds AND shoved her arm out above her head as she came out and tore me something fierce.
And now that my daughter’s birthday is always on that weekend, I usually get nothing since we spend all our money on her. But that’s okay by me.
AndreAnna | April 29th, 2009 at 9:06 pm
I, too, got the “But you aren’t MY mother”. Twice. I think the gods of holiday scheduling knew what they were doing when the put Father’s Day AFTER Mother’s Day…at least we know not to make a huge fuss for them after they’ve ruined our special day.
Christy | April 29th, 2009 at 9:11 pm
Last year, I got a three-day weekend at home, alone…. with our 4 month old twins while my husband was on a business trip. So, that was awesome.
Sally | April 29th, 2009 at 10:12 pm
Ooh, fun! This is my first Mother’s Day!
Barb @ getupandplay | April 29th, 2009 at 10:25 pm
Since I’m told “you have the biggest house”, I always get to host my mother in law, my sister in law, and her mother and father for my mother’s day celebration. Delightful. I want a day *away* from everyone for mother’s day, not more people in *my* house!!!
spacegeek | April 29th, 2009 at 11:23 pm
I’ve only had two so far, but for my VERY FIRST Mother’s Day, I got to get out of bed at the crack of dawn to tend to our crying 7-month-old. Who had pooped. Naturally. So I changed him and nursed him while my husband slept, and then came back to our bed, child in hand, and just sort of stared at my husband. He rolled over and said, “Oh, did you want me to get him breakfast?”
YES.
OK, so my husband couldn’t have nursed him, but SHEESH. And, no, there was no present. I think there might have been a “you’re not MY mother” attitude, but what I mostly remember is how I had to get up and change a poopy diaper on my very first Mother’s Day.
Dr. Maureen | April 29th, 2009 at 11:52 pm
Our first child was due the day after Mother’s Day 2003 so I was VERY pregnant that particular Mother’s Day. My husband looked quite confused when MY mother gave me a card and gift that day. He claimed that he didn’t have to get me anything because “technically” I wasn’t a mother yet. 39 weeks, 6 days pregnant and “technically” not a mother yet….sheesh.
Jana | April 30th, 2009 at 12:02 am
I usually get a Mothers Day card on the good years…and he thinks he is doing great. One year he ran off (yes ran off) and came back with a silver looking (real ???) “tiny” little heart. It was no bigger than 1/4 of a inch. (Yes get your tape measure out) I have no charm bracelet…it came with no necklace. But it did come with the story that he “bought” it at the Pawn Shop. They were giving them away or he found it on the street- that I would have more believed. So I buy my own things…some things are just a lost cause.
Eileen | April 30th, 2009 at 12:32 am
My very first mother’s day I was hugely pregnant with my daughter. We had been trying to have her for 3+ years. Every mother’s day before that one was awful. Especially since they have the mothers stand up in church and give everyone a flower. Especially since I got asked all day that day why we weren’t having kids yet.
So I was a little excited on this particular mother’s day to have a chance to stand up in church and receive my small gift, as well as have my hubby make the day special for me. He knew how much I hated the years before.
Well, no gift at church this time. They decided the “gift” was to watch all the kids sing on the stage. Oookaay… When we got home and it was increasingly apparent that my hubby hadn’t even thought about doing something for me, I sort of lost it. We had a huge screaming fest and I stormed out of the house. When I returned, nothing had changed except for me. I declared it a no gift holiday and had the baby 2 days later.
In June that year, he had the nerve to ask for something for Father’s Day. Forget it. I declared that a no gift holiday as well, and it’s been that way ever since.
It’s made things a whole lot easier.
Safire | April 30th, 2009 at 1:58 am
Okay, I laughed outloud at Safire’s decision to make both Mother and Father’s day a “no gift” holiday. She has saved herself from many frustrations but ohh….the stories that she’ll miss out on too.
Let me preface this story with saying that my husband is very loving and thoughtful to me. He is also very social and outgoing and loves spontaneous get-togethers.
Last year for Mother’s day I was 7 months pregnant and chasing a 1 yr old around the house while my dear dear husband was in the front yard burning a big pile of tree clippings Drinking large quantities of alcohol. With his buddies. (see above comment about spontaneous get-togethers.) He comes in HOURS later and declares himself too drunk to fulfill his earlier promise of a nice Mother’s Day dinner.
The buddies’ wives and I were all pretty ticked. There was a make-up dinner a week or so later where he sheepishly admitted to our waiter that we were celebrating Mother’s Day.
Marci | April 30th, 2009 at 3:42 am
On my first Mother’s Day my husband bought me a deep fryer!! I was a little sad about that.
Sharon | April 30th, 2009 at 11:36 am
A couple years ago, I didn’t even get told “Happy Mother’s Day” by my husband until I pointed out late in the afternoon that he hadn’t mentioned it. He claimed he was waiting for my mom to come over & would have told me then, but there were no plans for her to stop by that day, and she never did. I’m a stepmom, so his kids weren’t at our house, and I figured maybe he was waiting until the next weekend when they’d be there to give me a card/gift (I’ve gotten MD gifts for several years from them).
The next weekend came & went, and about an hour before he was going to take the kids back to their mom’s, I just came out & asked why I hadn’t gotten anything AT ALL. There was no reason; he’d just not thought of it or he came up short on money (but still, not even a card??)
So when he returned from dropping the kids off, he handed me a Kohl’s gift card that he swore the kids specifically told him to give me and it was all their idea and it was very important to them. Which is BS but I took it.
Since then, as soon as he wakes up on Mother’s Day he wishes me a happy one.
Becky | April 30th, 2009 at 12:29 pm
My first Mother’s Day was also the Wedding of dear friends of ours. It was my first weekend away from our first child which I was okay with (sort of). Anyway, I got nothing, no card, nothing. Why? Well…we were out of town… Apparently he couldn’t plan for this and there are no stores “out of town”. Idiot.
Amanda | April 30th, 2009 at 12:34 pm
My husband always says, “but every day is Mother’s Day!” and risks serious injury. He has never done anything special on that day (or, for that matter, on any of the other days he claims are also Mother’s Day). It wasn’t until my eldest entered kindergarten that I started receiving gifts — and sure, they are of the made-by-a-child variety, but I love them.
b. | April 30th, 2009 at 1:43 pm
This mother’s day will be my third and may actually top my first one in how not Mother’s Day it will be. My first Mother’s day after several year’s of trying - I wanted to celebrate with my Mom and daughter which I did with including my sister in law, my father- in law, my husband’s stepmom and her son ( his wife bailed), my husband’s grandmother and my poor father. It was then my poor husband when he got the bill ( we had to pay for the person who didn’t show up also). Last year I worked at my part time retail job because I was not going through that fiasco again. My mom rocks since she wants to celebrate Mother’s Day when the restaurants are not full of screaming kids. However, this year will be the BEST - my sister in law is graduating from college on Mother’s Day and we are hosting a graduation party on the Saturday before. I can’t wait - 50+ people in my house on Saturday and Sunday spent at graduation ceremonies. My my sister in law said that she would like a non alcoholic party. My husband just started laughing and said NO. I have never seen his parents (they are divorced) in the same room without needing to drink. I realize that this doesn’t make me a nice person but honestly you would think that the colleges would plan better.
AM | April 30th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
I also got nothing. Which is heartbreaking when you’re suffering from post partum. Alas, my son started school and started bringing home sweet little crafts for me on mother’s day and there is nothing better than the twinkle in your child’s eye when they are proud and excited to be doing something nice for you.
amber | April 30th, 2009 at 2:32 pm
I’ve only had one Mother’s Day so far, and I think I got … nothing? Hmm, maybe I’m as bad as he is if I can’t remember my first Mother’s Day. At all. We probably went out to eat - at my suggestion, of course. : ) Could be worse.
may | April 30th, 2009 at 3:02 pm
So — my first mother’s day… I have a beautiful baby girl and am looking forward to getting something from my husband telling me what a great mom I am and how thankful he is that I am the mother of his child, right? Not so much… Mother’s Day morning comes, and I am up with the baby at 6am while he sleeps — that’s ok, something will come when he gets up. Still no … no card, no nothing until I said something with post-partum tears rolling down my face. At that point, he went to walgreens and bought the tackiest card imaginable … because, of course, that was all that was left on Mother’s Day morning. Not getting a “good job” or “thanks for all you do” wasn’t bad enough … the next day, I was telling the story to our families (at which time I had more of a sense of humor around it) and my mother-in-law said with a straight-face - “Why should he get you anything? You’re not his mother.” My response was “Well — you’re not my grandmother and miraculously you received a card and a gift from the baby. Gee — wonder how that happened?” So — long story short — I guess the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, huh?
Erika | April 30th, 2009 at 3:02 pm
Sigh…The Man Thing never remembers Mother’s Day. I have to remind HIM to call HIS mother. My daughter, bless her heart, (she’s 20) tries really hard to make up for the fact that Mother’s Day is non-existent in my household and always brings me something I’ve really wanted or that she knows I will really love. My two sons, ages 9 and 6, usually make me a card the morning of Mother’s Day with crayons and kool-aid stained paper after I prod them for 20 minutes on, “Do you know what today is?”
If it were not for my daughter, Mother’s Day would be just another day in my house.
Might I also add that since my birthday is 3 days before Valentine’s Day, I only get one present - on Valentine’s Day. Nothing for Christmas either except for 2 years ago (out of the 16 I’ve been with The Man Thing) - he bought me a laptop computer. But I think that was in thanks for coming home after being gone for a month and leaving him in charge 24/7 with the two boys!!!!
TMWW | April 30th, 2009 at 3:15 pm
I remember when I was a teenager, I had gone on a youth hostel trip to Europe. It was around Mother’s Day and even though my mom said NOT to get her any presents, I bought, what I thought was a beautiful pair of Italian leather gloves. I returned home and presented Mom with my special present, and what I thought would bring raves and delightful glee from her. Well, I was the one to get the surprise when she said, “What, that’s ALLl you bought me?”
Susan Wiener | April 30th, 2009 at 3:27 pm
I’ve been a wife and mom for 26+ years, so obviously my husband’s preposterous Mother’s Day gift ten years ago wasn’t heinous enough for me to call the divorce lawyer, but I have gotten a LOT of mileage out of it, and now maybe I’ll actually win something for my travails.
My husband bought me for Mother’s Day…..a bag of frozen tortellini. I have gone around and around with how he came to bestow on me such a ludicrous gift, and to this day, he insists it was because I like pasta.
Good thing he’s really cute and makes nice money!
Carol | April 30th, 2009 at 3:53 pm
I top your Mother’s Day-Anniversary duo . . My anniversary is May 3, and my birthday is May 11, and Mother’s Day is all in that same week as well. So all 3 special days in one week. sigh . . .
my husband is usually very good about helping the kids on Mother’s Day. I don’t expect a gift, I just want to be made a fuss over a bit!
he did fail miserably one birthday though . . 8 days after our wedding we were on honeymoon and it was my birthday and NADA! I took myself off for a massage! he feels bad to this day about it and never failed me since!
gretchen | April 30th, 2009 at 4:05 pm
My first Mother’s Day was by far the worst. It was a Sunday, my son was 9 days old. His father (my now ex, thank goodness) had gone out “with the guys” the night before and was hungover. This was his excuse for not showing up at all.
My parents called (they lived over an hour away) and invited me to the Mother’s Day Brunch with all of my siblings. I agreed to go, but….when I tried to install the car seat by myself, for the first time…I couldn’t get it secure. My son was born with a clubbed foot, so his entire leg was in a plaster cast, which made things only that much harder. I sat in the backseat with him and cried. Then went back upstairs and called my sister’s cell to tell her I wouldn’t be able to make it.
The next day an elderly lady that lived in our building came to “check” on me. I guess her sister lived across the street and had seen me “looking like I was having a difficult time.” She was so sweet….now I look back on it and laugh. Sometimes. lol
So my worst present was no present at all…and no company. My Mom did call though, to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day.
Cheryl W. | April 30th, 2009 at 4:32 pm
The show stopper has to be the Mother’s Day before our first was born (so, technically, I wasn’t a mother yet, but I was 8 weeks pregnant.) My loving husband bought me a new bathroom scale “so we can both track how big you get”. I think that was his rock bottom, he has gotten better from there.
Pam | April 30th, 2009 at 5:03 pm
On my first Mother’s day I received a barbeque grill. Unassembled in a box. With a sheet over the top instead of wrapping paper to “hide” it in the middle of the living room. Yes, I assembled it myself. Do I win?
Stacie | April 30th, 2009 at 5:15 pm
I have only had a few Mothers Days so far, so I don’t really have a “worst one” story. But I could really use that gift certificate.
Jennifer B | April 30th, 2009 at 8:09 pm
in march 2005 (uk) my mum lost her battle against cervical cancer and passed away on mothers day (6th march 2005 - uk) so….thats my worst mothers day …every mothers day isnt very nice now. im just 28 and lost both parents and my son to cot death. i only celebrate it for the benefit of my other children who always give me lovely handmade cards and nice pressies! so …whatever anyone gets on mothers day off there children should mean the world to you…even if its a saucepan! xxxx
kellie | April 30th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
Back in 2003 my husband didn’t do anything. Finally he asked what I wanted for dinner and I said barbecued steak.
He asked, “where?;” I said “home.”
“But we don;t have a barbecue.”
“I know.”
He took me to Home Depot bought me the barbecue I wanted, and then we went to Wendy’s for dinner.
He finally got me something, and it was something I wanted, but it would have been nice not to have to go get it on Mother’s Day.
cc | April 30th, 2009 at 11:14 pm
Over the years I’ve had a sander, a cheese grater (I kid you not) a casserole dish, a chess set (what the hell?) and a dustbuster. None of which I asked for or even wanted.
I still love him though - he tries.
Caitlin | April 30th, 2009 at 11:47 pm
I’ve been married long enough to have low standards. But sometimes my husband’s procrastination drives me crazy. My second Mother’s Day I had a fit about no flowers. My little son and husband went off to buy flowers. I wish that worked, but I’m still not treated like the princess that I should be.
And I guess that’s what many of us are saying–we just want to be appreciated and our sacrifices recognized. But we’re frequently taken for granted.
How could anyone know what we sacrifice? I know that I did not understand my mom’s sacrifices until I was a mother.
Rachel | May 1st, 2009 at 2:51 am
My husband is of the “But YOU’RE not my mother!” ilk, but I still end up having to buy a card or put together a brunch even for the person who IS his mother. At least he has helped our young daughter make me a card the last couple years.
This year, however, he went and scheduled his (non-emergency) hernia surgery for just before Mother’s Day. Wanna bet he doesn’t even realize when the day comes and goes?
Brigitte | May 1st, 2009 at 8:54 am
My husband is in the military and has been gone every Mothers Day since our children were born. I have only had 3 Mother’s Day’s and have spent every single one of them alone with my children. That means no tangible gift or even sleeping in, but I do get plenty of time with the little people who give me the right to celebrate being a mother.
Rose | May 1st, 2009 at 1:26 pm
First of all, Rachel (”I’ve been married long enough to have low standards”) is cracking me up.
My worst Mother’s Day, like so many folks here, was my first. I had left my husband, and we had temporary orders for things like visitation and child support but no holiday schedule. (Because, well, nobody thought it was going to take nearly TWO YEARS for the divorce to go through.)
When I realized my daughter was scheduled to be with him for Mother’s Day and with me for Father’s Day, I asked to switch weekends. He said he’d do it as long as she got baptized in his parents’ church (talk about using your child as a pawn: he’s not a Christian, but I am). I refused, meaning that I had to spend the weekend out of town…and without my daughter.
HOWEVER, my family was wonderfully supportive, and I once again was thankful that I no longer live with my ex…so it was OK after all :).
Just me | May 1st, 2009 at 4:18 pm
My husband is sort of clueless (like a lot of others apparently) when it comes to gifts. He works hard, and I appreciate that, but I’d also appreciate him taking the time to think of me. Nothing on my first Mother’s Day, not even a verbal “Happy Mother’s Day.” On his first Father’s Day, he chose to spend the weekend away from the family He regretted it a lot, so I thought he’d understand the importance of some sort of acknowledgement. Nope. Second Mother’s Day was no different. The third one is coming up, and I doubt it’ll be anything different. –sigh–
mes | May 2nd, 2009 at 1:11 am
My first mothers day. I received nothing but 2 cards. One from my husb. and one from the baby and my husb.’s mother was sedated after just suffering a heart attack so we lived in the hospital for a few weeks.
Virginia Gibb | May 2nd, 2009 at 12:23 pm
YOU KNOW YOU MARRIED TO A REDNECK WHEN YOU RECEIVE A CORN COB SCRAPPER FOR MOTHERS DAY.
RENEE HOLMES | May 2nd, 2009 at 3:16 pm
My lovely husband forgot my very first Mother’s Day. I mean, completely forgot. No card, no flower, no gift, nothing. He slept in and when he woke up, I was on the phone with my mom. As soon as I told him who I was talking to, he remembered and looked like a deer in headlights.
Jill | May 2nd, 2009 at 4:43 pm
The worst was last year. We have had a tradition since before I became a mom that my dad took my grandmother, mother, sister, brother and I out to Camp 18 for Mother’s Day Brunch. This has been going on for quite some time and it was nice that it kept going even through me becoming a mom. Last year was the worst, though. My grandma passed away in March, but we already had these plans so Mother’s Day my mom and brother and I still went- but my dad didn’t go because he wanted to be at the cemetary.. it was just our tiny little group al depressed because it wasn’t the same- dad wasn’t there, grandma wasn’t there.. we were just a mess.
Cassandra A | May 2nd, 2009 at 6:24 pm
Um, in 2007, which was the first year I actually was a mother (my son was born in January of that year) my husband COMPLETELY FORGOT mother’s day.
No card, no present, no MENTION of the holiday even.
That brought my post-partum depression back a thousand fold.
Felicia | May 2nd, 2009 at 6:38 pm
Last year, i was pregnant with our daughter, and was supposed to be on bed rest due to a threatened misscarriage. Instead, I got to get up early with our cranky toddler, whom my husband had kept up all night, to make breakfast for everyone, including my teen-aged brothers that had stayed the night, clean a disaster of a house since they decided to party all night long, and clean up a beer that my wonderful husband had left in the freezer to explode. After that was all over, I continued to chase after our toddler, and keep everyone entertained until my husband decided to wake up at 2:30 that afternoon. I didn’t even recieve so much as a card or a “Happy Mother’s Day, sweetie!” He went out to his mother’s house, without asking me along, and then went to a movie with his friend. All in all, it was a disaster!
Andi | May 3rd, 2009 at 12:58 am
Worst Mother’s Day for me happened almost 3 years ago, my husband was deployed for the second time to Iraq. I was home worried as can be and taking care of the kids when an email from him pops up, eagerly I open it thinking he’s going to tell me Happy Mother’s Day and that he was sad he couldn’t be there with me, etc. I was wrong on so many levels. The email had a neutral enough title, but inside was pure venom. In the email he stated that he had never loved me, I was only the fall back from when he thought that the one he was truly in love with didn’t want him, that our son was the only good thing about our marriage, he hated me, when he got back from his deployment he was taking all the money and our son and I’d never see him again, it went on like that for about 2 paragraphs, and he ended it with him demanding that I STILL be at the house when he got back from deployment to take care of our son while he and his girlfriend spent time together, yes he told me he was flying her out for his homecoming and that I BETTER have our son there waiting for him.
Jennifer | May 3rd, 2009 at 1:42 am
I’ve been a full time step-mom for 9 years, and a darn good one if I do say so myself lol. But I have never gotten a Mother’s Day card, gift, or even well wish. Not from my husband, my step daughters, my mom, even my Mother In Law who spent the first 4 years of her Mommy career as a full time step-mom.
This year will be my first Mother’s Day as a “real” mom, and my hopes aren’t high. I’m asking for the chance to sleep in. That’s all, just let me sleep until I wake up. If I get that, I’ll do my best to erase the negativity that the past 9 years have put on me.
Samantha | May 3rd, 2009 at 4:17 am
On my first mother’s day, my son was 7 months old. My then-fiance, his father, told me as my “present” I could go out with the girls that afternoon and he’d take care of the baby for once (what a lame present, considering he went out with the guys for hours nearly every night, after working part-time in fast food while I was on baby duty all day and night). Well, he didn’t come home from work till 6 (he got off at 4 but hung out with some friends) and then asked me to be home by 7, the baby’s bedtime! Um, no, that only gives me an hour out. Not much of a present at all, his taking care of the baby for an hour. So he reluctantly said he’d put the baby to bed. I went off to my friend’s, thinking everything was fine, till my fiance called me 30 minutes after the baby’s bedtime and ask if I could bring his PlayStation 3 to his mother’s house. I asked him why in the world he was at his mother’s playing video games 30 minutes after the baby’s bedtime. He said, “Well, it IS Mother’s Day, and she wanted to see him.” (For the record, my almost-MIL was a crazy, mean lady…told me while I labored that there was no way I’d avoid a c-section, told me my day-old newborn was blind, tried to tell my son’s ped that I was “starving” him by BFing him, etc etc. I would never have broken my son’s bedtime for her, Mother’s Day or no…and what about MY being the baby’s mother and having to deal with a tired, fussy baby the next day???) So I had to cut my “gift” short and run over to get my tired, squalling baby and put him to bed while his dad sat and played video games at his mommy’s. Needless to say, the guy is now my EX fiance…we didn’t make it a month after that. We’ll see how my new guy does this year
Jessica | May 3rd, 2009 at 5:00 am
I’ve been a mom for 8 1/2 years. I have three boys. My husband is from another country where they do not celebrate mother’s day or most holidays. So I have never gotten anything for mother’s day or any other holiday. I’ve only received a birthday. I’ve tried explaining it to him, but he just doesn’t get it. So if I want anything I just have to buy it for myself, which he doesn’t understand either.
Surviving | May 3rd, 2009 at 3:02 pm
Last year was my first Mothers Day! My son was 2 months old. My husband and I went to the mall to pick something out for his mom the day before. Well the next day was Mothers Day. And he didnt say anything to me!! We went out to dinner with my mother and grandmother. He still didnt say a word or give me a thing!! That night I felt horrible. My first Mothers Day and my hubby didnt even say “Happy mothers day” to me. His mom got a beautiful gift while I got nothing! He didnt even buy dinner! my grandpa paid!!
violeta | May 3rd, 2009 at 3:16 pm
I admit I was disappointed when my oldest was too little to do anything about Mother’s Day and my husband’s response was that I wasn’t his mother, so what did I want from him? But that is not the worst Mother’s Day.
My worst Mother’s Day will be this one. I lost my dear mother this year after a horrific fall and 8 months of pain. I do not wish her back into that painful body, but I miss her terribly. Her birthday just passed — the first without her and now I am facing my first Mother’s Day without my mother. My oldest daughter is away living her own life and I won’t see her either. This will be the worst Mother’s Day for me by far.
When you are no longer a daughter, who are you? I cared for my Mom for so long I feel a little unraveled not having her in my life any more.
Gisele Phipps | May 4th, 2009 at 11:08 am
On my first Mother’s Day, my husband got me nothing. We don’t normally give each other gifts for Valentine’s Day or our anniversary, so maybe he thought it was a no-gift holiday (we do give each other cards though). I distinctly remember crying my eyes out at 7:30 in the morning (I didn’t get to sleep in, obv.) because the man didn’t even bother to get me a CARD. So he ran out to Walgreens and got a card and a crappy balloon that said “Happy Mother’s Day!” I carried twins for eight months, gave birth to twelve pounds of babies vaginally, and took care of them all day by myself while also working from home. I think I would have been able to handle it if he had at least remembered to get me a f’ing card ahead of time. As it was, I could barely look at that balloon, it upset me so much. I cried on and off all day and took a long drive by myself that afternoon just so I could get away from everything.
Every Mother’s Day since then, though, I get flowers, I get to sleep in, he brings me breakfast in bed, and I tell him a few weeks beforehand EXACTLY what I want as a gift and how I want to spend the day/weekend. He knows that he will spend every Mother’s Day for the rest of his life making up for that first one.
cindy | May 5th, 2009 at 1:51 pm
my first year as a mother,my mother-in-law gave me a gift to be from my son. well,a re-gift actually. i got an 11 year-old set of jean nate products.my husband remembered giving it to her when he was 11 years old. if you think that stuff stinks when it’s fresh, try it when it has had time to age. but it’s the thought that counts, right?
the next year i bought my son a gift to give to me- a gold chain necklace. can i help it if he had great taste at the age of 18 months?
lee | May 5th, 2009 at 4:53 pm
Mother’s day.. this is my second one! Last year, i had inlaws visiting us….. and both my husband and father in law left the ladies to play with the baby!
And both of them went to the kitchen and cooked the entire 4 course lunch for us. Like icing on the cake, they even cleaned up the kitchen.. and as expected, the food proportions were way off… so we had enough for dinner as well!
So was really sweet of them.. since i am working mom.. i was more than happy to spend the entire day pretty much playing with my daughter and bonding with mum-in-law!!
Wow.. this year… crossing my fingers.. and hinting.. all over the place for a Spa gift!
GNSD | May 5th, 2009 at 7:37 pm
My husband fnds a way to screw it up pretty much every Mother’s Day. At first it was like, What? You’re not MY mom. Then it was like, Oh s*it, today is Mother’s Day?! Then it was like, Let me run to the grocery store and buy you a lousy bouquet of carnations. So now my expectations are extremely low for this holiday.
Mimi O | May 5th, 2009 at 7:45 pm
I got a deep coat grooming brush ($5) from Walmart one year from my husband. He was proud that he had remembered me complaining about the amount of hair his dog was shedding, and since I’m home all day….
yeah, not such a great idea.
anni williams | May 7th, 2009 at 4:16 am
My first Mother’s Day was okay, my husband picked out a jewelry box for our son to give me. It was a bit of an apology gift since a few months before, after an argument, he went through my jewelry and threw out a necklace that my parents gave me as a graduation gift, thinking it was from an ex of mine. The next year, his birthday was the same day as Mother’s Day. I wished him a happy birthday as he left with our son for church, and as he was shutting the door, he said a short, “Happy Mother’s Day,” before the lock turned. They were late getting home from church that day, and he went straight to the bedroom for a while. Later, a hastily wrapped box and card were left on the table for me. I was angry and didn’t open it for a few days. The card was so generic, and when I opened the package, I found a box with a bottle of Olay Anti-aging/wrinkle cream. I was 22 years old! Honestly, I thought that perhaps he got it for his mother and mixed up the gifts. I never used it. I put it into a box I keep old cards and letters, and I’m saving it to show my son when he’s older. He later claimed that it wasn’t wrinkle cream, further proving the lack of thought or care that went into it. It said so right on the box. I considered letting our son give him a tube of hemorroid cream for Father’s Day that year, but we had all ready picked out a hammock. The implication being that he’s a PITA… It was then that I sent out an email to my guy friends to remind that whenever they might have children of their own to remember that Father’s Day follows Mother’s Day, and that their Father’s Day will reflect how their fellow parent’s Mother’s Day was!
The year after that, Mother’s Day wasn’t even acknowledged. When I mentioned something about it, I was yelled at with, “You’re not my mother! Why would I say Happy Mother’s Day to you?!” And ever since, it’s just another Sunday. Last year, with gas prices so high, I wasn’t able to drive out to see my mom on Mother’s Day, so my husband took our kids out to see his mother, who lives just as far as mine does. My mom sends me a card, and even my boss said, “Happy Mother’s Day,” to me when I was back at work the Monday last year.
I think nothing would have been better than wrinkle cream.
Jessi | May 7th, 2009 at 3:56 pm
I had the talk after no gifts for birthdays, Christmas, Mother’s Day, etc., and said if you want to get you had best give. The following Mother’s Day, he presented me with a bread knife. I was floored by the stupidity of giving a woman a gift that could be used as a weapon against him.
witchypoo | May 7th, 2009 at 5:58 pm
It was Mother’s Day, 1985 and in the past my husband was really great at getting me awesome gifts from the kids on that glorious day. I had three children ages 6, 4 and 6mos. I had been suspicious of my husband cheating on me since the baby was born and chalked my paranoia up to crazy hormones. However, when I opened a Dustbuster on Mother’s Day, my suspicions were confirmed. He moved out in August.
JudyA | May 8th, 2009 at 4:19 pm
I hadn’t seen my husband and 6 year old daughter for two weeks due to work travel and was excited to return home the day before Mother’s Day. I had brought home lots of fun gifts for both of them. I did not mention Mother’s Day at all, as I was hoping for a surprise time of family and fun. On Sunday morning, after church, we went over to a friend’s home for a mother’s day lunch. My friend’s husband gave her a bouquet of roses and a pair of beautiful earrings. After he gave them to her, my husband throw a plastic Target bag at me and said, “Here’s yours.” No wrapping or nothing. Inside there was a t-shirt that said, “Drama Queen”. Needless to say, I have never wore it.
Cheri H | May 9th, 2009 at 10:27 pm
Hubby told me the week before the date that he was going driving to the Midwest to spend time with his brother. His brother was widowed last year after 20 years of marriage and was taking off a week to commerote her death. He didn’t ask his brother to pick a different date or put it off a week (his brother is childless). Last year, I had OB surgery (endometrial ablation - no more children) on the Friday to miss minimal time at work. The year before, both he and our son were out of state, as we were in the process of a do-it-yourself move. The year prior, hubby had also taken him out of state (I got a card in the mail) and a professional baby picture when they returned. So, now in menopause, I have no note, no card, no flowers,no breakfast in bed, no gift and no explanation as to why he doesn’t think the day is special. Our son will be 4 in July.
poonrbc | May 10th, 2009 at 6:11 am
We are supposed to get gifts?
I have been a mother for 46 years, with 3 children, 6 grandchildren, and 3 husbands over time.
I don’t remember a gift in all that time. I don’t get a card, phone call, or email either.
I did send Mother’s day cards to the mothers of my grandchildren, though, and they did send cards to their husbands’ mothers.
Mother’s day, Valentine’s Day, birthdays, and Christmas would be just one more opportunity to be sad that I have been forgotten if I didn’t count my blessings.
My children are alive, and prospering.
Have compassion for the mothers whose babies were stillborn, whose sons and daughters went to war and never came back, whose children died because a drunk driver collided with them, and a crappy gift or no gift at all seems trivial.
Hugs to everyone who has family who don’t seem to care.
Even bigger hugs to those who grieve.
Jocelyn | May 10th, 2009 at 2:59 pm
This year is my very first Mother’s Day. I’m a nurse and was scheduled to work, but at the last moment another co-worker took pity on me and agreed to switch shifts. I was so so so excited. When I woke up my husband handed me two cards, the first from him saying “Happy Mother’s Day to the woman who steals the covers.” Nothing about the “wonderful woman who gave birth to the most amazing baby ever!” I wasn’t too upset until I got to the second card, which was from my 6 month old. My husband, in his sweet sentimental mind, thought it would be funny to get me a card from my baby that says, “Don’t worry Mom, my therapist says you’re not the only one to blame… Dad had a part in messing me up too!” Wow. As a first time mom I am still worried about how well I am doing (a conversation we had the Friday before this) and he thinks I would be entertained by this card. Needless to say I was less than impressed and promptly left to get myself Starbucks. I can’t wait until my Birthday to see what idiot card he picks out for me then!
Samantha | May 10th, 2009 at 4:28 pm
My worst mother’s day would have to be when my eldest, now 18, was 3. My husband had to work, and he left me sleeping with a card on his pillow. I was happy with that, we were broke, barely keeping out heads above water, and I know it was just a card, but that card could have bought a gallon of milk…see where I’m coming from?
Unfortunately, sleeping in meant that I was not up to assist my child in the morning as usual. What woke me up was this REALLY warm spot near my knees. I figured my baby had climbed into bed with me, so I sat up to slide him up to his dad’s pillow and we’d have a little snuggle time. I sat up on the bed to do just that…but there were FLAMES on my bed! Half of my bed was on fire! And my poor son was just standing there looking horrified! I flipped the comforter over and managed to smother the flames, thank goodness! But not before it had burned through all the bedding and had a good start on the mattress!
I ran out the kitchen door, grabbed the garden hose, ran it through the bedroom window and HOSED DOWN the bed just in case there were any sparks or hot spots left. This resulted in not only 1/2 of a wet bed, but wet carpet and an awful smell!
When the fear of fire was over, I asked my young son if he knew what happened. He handed me the grill lighter that belonged on the top of the refrigerator, a candle, and another card that had taped-on dried flowers on it. Obviously Dad had helped him make me a pretty card. My dear son told me he wanted to give me a “pretty” for “mommy’s day.” He had lit the candle on the bed and it had fallen over lighting the bed on fire.
That was about the time I heard the firetrucks…I got to deal with police, firemen, and child welfare for the rest of the day on my own because my husbands boss wouldn’t let me talk to my husband. When my husband got home late that night, I told him what happened…he went into our room, where we no longer had a bed, and the carpet was still drying, and laughed! I’m sure it was stress-related, but it ticked me off at the time!
Oh! Did I mention the broken eggs all over the floor? My dear son was going to make me eggs for breakfast (why he thought he could cook I will never know) and they fell and broke all over the kitchen floor.
The only good thing that came out of this whole thing was that I learned I can take care of really cruddy stuff on my own if I have to. I also learned that eventually you will laugh at all the crazy stuff that comes along with having kids…it’s just going to take a while!
My husband learned to ALWAYS wake me up before he leaves for work! He still does and my youngest is now 12. I prefer it, you never know what 2 teens and 1 pre-teen could get into on their own!
It was a sweet gesture, don’t get me wrong, but I will take a day of fighting with my kids, getting no gifts, and working at a cruddy job over that Mother’s Day ANY DAY!!!
Julia | May 10th, 2009 at 5:46 pm
My husband doesn’t get me anything for Mother’s Day because, I quote “You’re not my mother!” This year he is working out of state, so I took the kids to play mini golf while he was probably hanging out with his new buddies drinking beer and playing real golf with the abundance of responsibility-free time he has on his hands when he’s not working these days - I didn’t even get a card from him. I know he was poorly trained by his father because they are both the cheapest, least generous, least thankful people I know. He just figures I’m doing what I’m supposed to do as a mom and don’t deserve any extra appreciation from him. Fortunately, I know the kids appreciate me which is really what the day is all about I guess. I just get myself what I want around Mother’s Day because the kids are too young to have any money to spend and I know my DH would never bother.
Rebecca | May 10th, 2009 at 8:32 pm
Ok, so after staying up till 4 am waiting to hear from my 17 year old son made it home from Prom ok, I sleep till about 9 and get up and get ready for church. My sweet 9 year old son asks if he can make me breakfast. I tell him yes and order Cinnamon Toast and milk and have breakfast with him while my husband, 19 years old, 17 year old and 14 year old get ready for church and watch TV. On the way to church I start feeling sorry for myself because only my youngest has even mentioned Mother’s Day to me. I start to cry and my husband notices…. he puts his hand on my shoulder but still says nothing! I get to church and as I walk in find my BEST friends husband standing there with three roses for me wishing me a Happy Mother’s Day. He is like my brother so I know it came from his heart! I cried off and on during church thinking about how my own family didn’t think of me and how I must have failed as a mom! I know my friend and her husband see all I do and give to my family. Just breaks my heart that my own STILL haven’t thought of their mom or wife!!!
Patti | May 10th, 2009 at 9:28 pm
My worst Mother Day gift…we’ll I’ve never received one. My first Mother’s Day my husband told me he was going to get up early and make me breakfast in bed. I was 8 months pregnant at the time. He slept until 1:00 in the afternoon, until in a rage I stormed out of the house starving and treated myself to lunch. You would have thought he would have learned. Nope. I got nothing the next year. No card, no flowers. Nada. We went to brunch at a family friend’s house and I had to sit there and watch while all the other mom’s received flowers, cards, and gifts. It broke my heart.
Marie | May 10th, 2009 at 10:01 pm
It was my first mothers day and my baby was only 2 months old. I woke up to my fiance saying “Its your turn to get up with him.” I figured he was just tired and would get up later to give me a card or something. An hour later he got out of bed while I was getting ready for church. He yelled “Are you almost ready yet, come on its almost time to go.” Then we went to church, by the time church was out I had about 10 texts to my phone from friends wishing me a happy mothers day. The only person who hadn’t was my fiance. Then we went out to eat with our mothers and families and gave our mothers their cards and gifts. Some of the family members gave me cards, some wished me happy mothers day. Still nothing. Then one by one, a few of them asked me throughout the day what I got for mothers day. . .each time I had to say “nothing.” Even after all of this, not once did he even mutter a happy mothers day to me. I was so excited for this day because it was my very first mothers day. . .I think the first one is always the most special to you. Unless your man doesnt even recognize you as a mother.
christina | May 10th, 2009 at 10:57 pm
this is how my first mothers day went
So my first ever Mother’s Day as a mother. I was so excited just waiting for something special to happen, but this is what happened. Wake up early, try to wake up husband, but baby is the only on responding. I showered her, changed and feed her. Now she wants to play, while i try to wake up husband again, not working. So since I cant leave the baby by herself, i play. A couple hours pass, and its time for her nap so i rush out to shower. By the time I get out, he is already awake, playing with the baby, because of course he can’t be quiet. So he hands me the baby and decides to shower. So im in a towel, wet hair and all trying to put her back to sleep. He gets out two minutes later and tells me to iron a shirt. and i look at him like he is crazy. I dont know what to wear i haven’t blow dried my hair and im supposed to iron his shirt. get the hell out of here. Rushes rushes rushes till im at a resturant which his sister the one i do not talk to has chosen. so here i am with frizzy hair eating lunch with his mom and sisters. Almost forgot we stopped by to buy his mother roses, just his mother. And while we while we rushed home, i reminded him that i need to buy my mom something, and i wanted to go to the mall, pick out something nice. But no, my husband gave me twenty bucks and pulled in front of Jewel to buy flowers. we get home my mom is having a cook out and he leaves to watch SOCCAR!!!!!!!
I OFFICIALLY HATE MOTHERS DAY!!!!
and right now im waiting on him to come back it is now past eight.
Mayra | May 11th, 2009 at 12:34 am
I have been married since 2007. I have been giving my husband the benefit of a doubt that due to his heavy school and work schedule and demands, he is un-able to express “happy _______ day” no cards, presents, email, text…for anything….wait…he did say happy mothers day to me when he woke me up this morning while handing me the baby (around 7:30am) so much for sleeping in…just thought i’d share the winning story…even if I am late…lol
One in a million | May 11th, 2009 at 3:14 am
This was my first Mother’s Day as a new mommy. We just moved out to California(my husband is a marine) so we have no family for over 1000 miles. Here is how my day went: I woke up, i had to make breakfast for myself AND my husband. We then went to church where pastor reminded all the husbands several times to do something for your wives and mothers today. After church my husband wanted to go home, so off we went. He made himself lunch, played on the computer, and watched a movie he wanted to watch. When he asked why I seemed upset and I told him. Babe, you didn’t show me any kind of appreiciation, any kind of action saying happy mother’s day. I mean it hurts. I just wanted a card and maybe some flowers and a nice meal. So when we were talking about it a little bit ago, he told me that i was being FOOLISH and GREEDY because I wanted something from him that said “here baby, I love you and am thinking of you today”. He kept making me the bad guy for being upset at him because he can apparently do nothing wrong. So now here I am writing this downstairs and he is sound asleep in bed. I am wrong here to want to be shown appreicition and not be called greedy and foolish? Some first Mother”s Day…
Kristina Ash | May 11th, 2009 at 5:58 am
This year was the worst. In past years I have gotten nothing. But this year was worse than that. Yesterday on the way home from work my husband decided to stop at a local Freds store. Now for those of you who don’t know what a Freds is, think Dollar General and you have it.
I got a candle holder with some kind of dust catching crap around it. No candle either. Just the cheap holder in a cheap plastic box. It was in the same ugly gift bag that my daughter had gotten for her birthday in march.
My daughter who is 14 didn’t even bother wishing me a happy mother’s day. I was so upset I cried all afternoon and cried myself to sleep.
here is it in all it’s ugly glory:
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3635/3522060102_82501fe3ae_o.jpg
Clarissa | May 11th, 2009 at 11:31 am
For Mother’s Day last year my husband got me a gift from our 1 year old daughter (and I was expecting our second child in the fall). I opened the Cherished Teddy knick knack (which I don’t even collect), to find that I am the “Beary Best Babysitter”! I cried, it was the worst Mother’s Day ever. Then this year for Mother’s Day my husband had a lot of making up to do, so he got me a tree for the very spot in the yard that he wanted to plant a tree!!!!!! Sorry, but being a the best babysitter and planting a tree do NOT make me feel like a very special mom.
DeservingMom | May 11th, 2009 at 11:58 am
My first mother’s day was this year May 10, 2009. My son is 11 months old. I received several cards in the mail in the days prior from friends, my family and his family wishing me a Happy First Mother’s day. I knew he had forgotten up to this point, but thought the cards would remind him. On Saturday, I mentioned wanting to go to the zoo on Sunday. Well, Sunday morning went like any other. I got up with the baby and my husband slept in until 1pm. His first words to me were accusations about putting a virus on his laptop. 30 minutes later, when it was time for my son to take a nap, my husband layed down with him and they slept until 4pm. I went grocery shopping in the mean time (bought some brownie mix). When my husband got up, he went to Home Depot. I was hoping he would at least get a card while he was out. No such luck. He came home and asked me to help him in the back yard. But first, he asked me to find his shoes at which time I asked why he was so lazy. He said because Sunday is my day to relax. After working in the back yard, he was excited to get in the kitchen and make himself some brownies. By 6pm I reminded him to call his mom, and he said “oh yeah, right, for mother’s day.” He then said “I guess I should tell you happy mother’s day too, huh?” I was near tears reading a book to my son and just said “yeah, maybe.” Later, her accused me of being short and grumpy with him, so I layed it all out and told him how unappreciated I felt…especially since we had just had a major conversation the weekend previous about how tired I was because I was having to be super mom; working full time, nursing, making my own baby food and keeping up with the house while he only works 20 hours a week. I told him this was his opportunity to show me how much he appreciated everything I do as a wife and a mother to his child and that I can never get my first mother’s day back. I spent the rest of the evening alone because he didn’t want to be around me, hopefully out of embarassment.
Schmelley27 | May 11th, 2009 at 1:36 pm
For Mother’s Day this year, I received a gift card to Gymboree - to buy clothes for the kids!
Jill | May 11th, 2009 at 2:54 pm
Well, this mothers day had to be the worst for me. My husband worked until 4pm. He did say Happy Mothers Day before he left. I woke up at 7 am with a splitting migraine, left the house at 9:30 rushing to pick up my 9 year old from her dad’s so I could take her shopping for her overnight field trip. We had to go to three different stores to find what she needed, one having to park so far away I ended up with blisters. Then I forgot where we parked so we were walking for about 20 minutes in blistering heat looking for the car.
We went to see my mom and grandma, my 3 year old had a number 2 accident in my grandma’s play room so I had to clean it up.
When we got home, I helped my 9 year old with a school project until 11:30 pm. My husband was home, but he was too tired to do anything so he sat on the couch all night as I made dinner ran around after the kids, worked on the project with my daughter and I think I finally sat down at about midnight when I went to bed.
So basically it was just like any other day. Can someone remind me why we even have a Mother’s day?
Thattery | May 11th, 2009 at 3:21 pm
HA! My husband and I were married on May 5th as well (cinco de mayo woohoo!) We’ve only been married for 2 years, this year was my first Mother’s Day so I expected a card and flowers since well I’m ALWAYS going on and on about how much I love flowers. Instead he gave me a card which was nice, I had to spend the day with my in laws which wasn’t so nice and then at 11:15pm he said, “Oh yeah, here” and handed me a box of chocolates that he had bought and told me about 2 weeks ago. >:|
His response to my “dude, your a douche you should have done something nice for me on my FIRST Mother’s Day especially since our baby girl fractured my spine while I was pregnant with her” was “by the time I realized I wanted to do more it was too late”.
He’s a douche. I don’t care if I don’t win I just wanted to share that my husband of only 2 years is a douche. This morning (the morning after) he kept asking what he could do to make this better. Seriously why is he so clueless!!?? I’m guessing he’s never heard of apology flowers? Do over? A sweet gesture to patch things up?!
His Father’s Day stuff is SO going in the trash. The only thing he’s getting on EF-Day is a card and laundry to fold.
Michele | May 11th, 2009 at 4:18 pm
I’ll make this short. First Mother’s Day (MD) was in 2005. I didn’t get anything then since I was pregnant. Since our son was born around MD, my husband claims that he gets so stressed out about our son’s birthday party and MD. Well, this year - I made sure to have MD weekend cleared from any parties. He knows MD is coming up, and doesn’t plan ahead of time. For the past 3 years, I have received NOTHING. Last year, we went to church and got a nice candle, went along as if it was no special day. I made dinner like normal Sunday’s. The year before that our church gave away carnations, same thing - nothing. I’ve been hurt every year. My husband doesn’t get anything for me. I work full-time, a mom to a 3.5 year old - and I’m the bread winner for our family. Yesterday on MD, my husband became sick with a head cold. Guess what - I went to church w/our son and they had a nice ladies reception. My son made me a card w/his picture and also made me some crafty flowers. What did I get from my husband? NOTHING. It’s not like we didn’t have any money for him to buy anything for me. I literally poured my heart out yesterday to him (I didn’t care if he was sick or not), but I was pissed! I slept in the guest room last night too. I’m so sick of this every year. My whole family and some of his own friends had called to wish ME a happy mother’s day. At least I feel appreciated from our family and friends. I’m still mad and can play the silent treatment for a while, but I know that’s not healthy. Anybody has any input or advice? This December, we’ll be married for seven years. Am I being too harsh? I’m about to form a “I HATE MOTHER’S DAY” forum.
Wendy | May 11th, 2009 at 5:28 pm
well the long of the short. i have been married now for 7 years.two beautiful children and a clueless husband. after a 3 year seperation this was my first mothers day back “together” so you would think he would show a little appreciation for his wonderful wife.NOT!!! for the first 6 mothers day i get nothing or your not my mother… and this one i would have rather gotten that to be honest. I got a card mailed to my home a day LATE ,that was the most lame card i have ever read. it sounded like something i would give to a friend. first ,before i tell you what was in this card let me also say it was addressed to me and inside the card he was speaking to MY MOTHER as well?? can we say WTF? anyways back to the card…
the outside has a martini glass and it says cheers its mothers day! …then i open it and it reads..”not traditionally a drinking holiday, but what the hell i say!” Here is the cherry on the cake.. he hand writes in it not something sweet like thank you for taking such good care of my children or even thank you for all you do for me and our family like my 7 year old son wrote in one he made in school… but no no no he writes this to me and for some odd reason MY MOTHER…
it states
“wishing you and K(my mother) a peacefull moment in the hot tub with a drink of choice for your long stressful hours with the children. (mind you they are my children not my mothers she does not take care of them so why he was speaking to her to was shocking to me i am starting to think HE WAS DRUNK when he filled out this card) cont… “S(me)didnt turn out too bad i guess and our children are still alive so that has to say something about your parenting right??”
yeah now i am SURE he was drunk when he filled it out and mailed it to my home.
now why i am so offended. i am a military wife of a flyer… i take care of these two children all by myself while he is gone 21 days out of the mth 12 mth a year. i have never asked him for anything in my life nor have i got anything. i know his job is stressful and i am proud of what he does to take care of our family. but really?? not only do i take care of our children but our family s as well.. it takes a strong women to be a soldiers wife and you would think a soldier would know that. we were seperated the last 3 years for personal reasons that i will not get into on here. and you would think that for someone who has begged for his wife back he would at least give her a #1 mom card gotten from the $ store. but no i get a thanks for not killin our kids and go get drunk card.. oh and dont forget the fyi to the mother in law my wife didnt turn out too bad i guess…. wow i think my mom got more of a compliment out of “MY” mothers day card then i did… gerrrrrrrrrrrrr
i cried most the day today… i would have rather been forgotten.. i feel as though i have been spit on. Part of me knows he was trying to be funny but i am not laughing… AT ALL!
Disappointed | May 11th, 2009 at 10:13 pm
I had mine yesterday. I am currently traveling with work so I am not at home, which is a big bummer to begin with. My mother’s day consisted of nothing. No call, no card, nothing. To top it off, it was also my anniversary. I had already given my husband a present before I left on my trip, and when the day started out, I WAS going to call. Eventually I had my own pity party and I haven’t spoken to him since. Everyday we always IM, email and call when I am traveling. That day…nothing. It was like I was deliberately ignored. My son is younger and has trouble with the phone, so most of this blame is on my husbands shoulders. (however, I will also be letting my son know ow sad it made me) The worst part is that I haven’t spoken to my husband since because I don’t want it to end in a fight, and I am still very upset about it. I feel crummy for being upset and I know I can’t talk to him without crying about it. All I wanted was a call saying happy anniversary, happy mother day, i love you mom, anything.
Corrie | May 11th, 2009 at 10:59 pm
Last year, a few days before Mother’s Day, my brother unexpectedly died. I was devastated. I thought that my husband and two sons (15 & 19) would do something special to help me through this horrible time. Nothing. Nada. My husband told me that I wasn’t his Mother and my older son thought all these holidays were pointless. I unleashed on them pointing out their insensitivity and hoped for a better Mother’s Day next year. Fast forward. Nothing. Nada. Same speeches. Makes me feel that if I fell off the planet it wouldn’t affect them. My Father thinks I should boycott doing all the things I do for them to teach them a lesson in appreciation. I am horrified that I am married to a jerk who abdicates his responsibility to teach his sons how to behave and most horrified at my own sons’ behavior.
Patte F. | May 11th, 2009 at 11:22 pm
Last year was my first mothers day, We had been trying to get have a baby for over 15 years, we had a few loses, but I finally had my baby. So when Mothers Day came, i expected something from my husband. i was very hurt to not even get a Happy Mothers Day from him, nothing, He didn’t even acknowledge me as a Mom. He took my mom flowers and a pretty necklace though.
Mo | May 12th, 2009 at 5:38 am
I was looking forward to my First Mother’s Day ever this year with my 11 mos old. I thought I would wake up to a card or maybe some flowers or maybe breakfast or even being able to sleep in for the first time this week. Instead I wake up to a crying baby early dawn and a husband fast asleep. I get up and start the day and get everything ready so that we can make it to church on time. The baby’s in the crankiest mood all week because she got up too early but didn’t want to go back to sleep so by the time my husband gets up, he starts getting ready to go…still no “happy mothers day” words or anything. He leaves me to attend to the baby while he gets ready, so I’m left to get myself and the baby ready and fed. We get in the car and still no mention of Mothers Day. We get to church and like THREE sweet little moms come up to me and say “Oh, is this your First Mother’s Day?! How Special” as they see me with our baby. My husband looks at me wide-eyed and realizes he FORGOT Mother’s Day! And I had reminded him a few days before when I told him I sent his mom a card and gifts. Then he insists on taking the baby into the congregation because she’s fallen asleep and he picks a MIDDLE aisle thinking she’ll just sleep the whole time…ya, right! She makes it through about 30 minutes of the service and then wakes up and doesn’t realize where she’s at so starts yelling “Mom” in the middle of the sermon! Finally my husband realizes he needs to take her out and then makes everyone in the row get up to let them by! Then he forgot the diaper bag so she peed all over him! Needless to say, it was the worst Mothers Day and my expectation are pretty much shot so it will have to join the ranks of holidays I cringe at every year including Valentine’s Day.
Leanne | May 12th, 2009 at 5:50 am
I know what you mean by a bad Mothers day. This year was my first Mothers day and I got NOTHING, not even a card. My husband didnt forge Mothers day was coming up because I talked to him about mailing the mothers day cards a few days before. His excuse…”Sorry hunny, I didn’t think about it”. Nice huh? I am really heartbroken that I mean so little as the Mother of his child that he didnt think about me even when he knew it was Mothers day.
UpsetMommy | May 12th, 2009 at 1:05 pm
My first Mother’s Day, I got a Black and Decker “Scumbuster”. Now everytime I scrub the shower, I think of how thoughtful my husband was.
cricket | May 12th, 2009 at 6:31 pm
My birthday was the day before Mother’s day this year and so I got the combination birthday/mother’s day celebration. That would have been fine except that I didn’t get any gifts at all except an already wilted bouquet of flowers. (the kids picked them out)
At the request of my 4 yr old, we went to Chuck E Cheese for my birthday, which I don’t mind because I like playing the games with my kids and seeing how excited they get at picking out prizes at the end. My husband tells me that he didn’t have time to go shopping for my birthday yet so after CEC, he takes our kids shopping. He is gone only an hour and he got me a birthday card and cake. The kids give me the flowers. He tells me that it’s too hard to go shopping with the kids and wasn’t able to find anything. I tell him that he can always go shopping tomorrow.
Mother’s day comes and all I got were cards. It’s apparent that I’m not getting anything else so I’m pretty disappointed. He did go out for a bit but only went to get some groceries. I had even told my husband that what would make a good gift was him finishing some projects around the house. He doesn’t even do that until I tell him that I didn’t want him to go to the park with me and the kids because I would like to be the one playing with them while he cleans up around the house for a change.
workingmom | May 14th, 2009 at 11:56 am
Oh get over yourself. You sound like a spoilt little girl. Mother’s day was invented for commercial reasons only and should be ignored by anyone with half a brain. Surely you should be more concerned about how your other-half treats you through the rest of the year (and vice-versa).
Terry | November 21st, 2009 at 1:57 pm
I just found this blog by accident, and had to comment.
First of all, I’ve come to realise that Mothers of young children simply don’t get time off. That’s fine, being a Mom means being a giver, all of the time, every day of the year. That’s what I signed up for.
But since you’re looking for bad gift stories…I’d say mine was when I was very very pregnant and had an almost 2 year old little boy, after wrestling with him through the longest church service ever, where the preacher carried on for hours about what a saint his mother was (torture!!!)
**HINT to any preachers trying to come up with a great Mothers Day sermon…
Keep it SHORT!! And Mom’s don’t want to hear about how inadiquate they are compared to yours!!!!
So anyway… I go home to my husband (who stayed in bed instead of going to church with us), he gave me the movie “Finding Nemo”, told me it would keep my son busy so I could take a break while he took off to his sisters house to “hang out” untill after bed time. We weren’t invited.
Needless to say I am no longer married to him, and the new girl (who was the reason why we weren’t invited to his sisters) gets to enjoy his special gifts from now on.
We also gave up on church. Life is much more enjoyable these days
ManchesterMom | March 3rd, 2010 at 2:30 pm
Today is March 21st and my husband just came home with what he said is an early Mother’s Day present. He leads me out to the garage with eyes closed (this is never a good sign) to a new front screen door. Are you kidding me? My fault, I did mention one time that it would be nice to have a cross breeze in the summertime but he must not have heard me when I said that I would like a pair of gold sleeper earings. Don’t tell me they don’t have selective hearing!
LuLu | March 21st, 2010 at 7:18 pm
Hi am a single mother of 3. And the worst Mother Day gift I ever got, would have to be a pair of shoe’s my son got me from a yardsale. That had holes in them. Of course they were not sandder’s. But I want complain because. I haven’t gotten another gift since. So I just treasure want I got . I do LOVE him for them. LOVE YOU SON
Twanda | April 12th, 2010 at 3:20 pm
A jar full of poo
stephanie Fejes | May 5th, 2010 at 8:20 pm
well, i told my husband this past weekend that i wanted a candle or a camera holder. Well i wake up today, mothers day and of coarse husband has to go to work. he comes home. goes to the bedroom, says he tired, i peek in on him and hes talknig on the phone, to one of his buddies. I took care of the kids all day. 3 beautiful little girls. cleaned the yard, fixed the pool, cleaned the house. hung a picture. the neihbor came over gave me a flower from his garden, hung hooks for me so pool towels aren’t every where, he even brought lunch over for the kids to eat, his child was there too.. which was nice, hubby having time to himself, he comes in and says did you get my gift, i said no! hes says, check your email. i check my email and he gave me an E-card. AN Email Card…I couldn’t believe it. what a candle costs a couple of dollars at dollar store. yep i was upset! i left and went to lowes and bought myself a flower in a pot that cost 6 dollars. it hurt but im ok now, that just made me feel how he appreciates me, and i see now! so tell me what you think.
An email Card……
diana carter | May 10th, 2010 at 3:57 am
I got a White Castle Scented Candle for Mothers Day, I think that tops them all….. What was he thinking, or was he just hungry at the time?
Kelly K | May 10th, 2010 at 1:36 pm
For my very first Mother’s day I had decided to envite all the mothers in my family over to our place for lunch. Have in mind I had a two month old. So I did all the shopping and cooking while taking care of a two month old. My husband didn’t come home after work the day before mother’s day (so he didn’t help me with anything). He showed up the next day high and drunk a couple of hours before my guests are arriving and managed to puke and get sick and go to bed. I had to beg him to get up and show his face to all the people who were at our house. That was five years ago.
I have gotten nothing for all the other Mother’s Days…maybe a card.
Now,in 2010, I have a three month old daughter and haven’t had a good nights sleep for probably over 4 months and I do all the work at home, all the paper work, all the bills and managing and I also have a full time job(high school teacher) and my husbnad shows up a day beore Mother’s day (not even Mother’s day) and he wraps something really fast and gives it to me. He was really excited about the gift and said that this time he planned and thought about it. I opened the gift …it was a betty boo bobble head and a chocolate bar from CVS drug store.!!!!
For Christmas he usually gets me nothing or something from the 99 cent store.
For my birthday(while I was 5 months preganant and I had actually given him the money for my gift) I asked for a necklace, he showed up with an ugly $12 ring and $10 bracelet from a discount stores.
My husband appreciates me alright.
I have been in tears since yesterday and feel so unspecial and foolish.
The only reason why I am actually up and going is that I am reminding myself of my two wonderful and beautiful children and trying to remind myself that Mother’s Day for me is to thank God for the blessing of these two wonderful children.
Anahid Kocharian | May 10th, 2010 at 6:52 pm
After 15 years of marriage you would think I would just be numb to it by now but I am not. I stupidly expected something this year different than all other years. But low and behold he got me the same thing he gets me for every Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, our Anniversay, and my birthday . . . NOTHING!
Thanks a lot!
Sara | May 11th, 2010 at 1:12 pm
My mother passed away on mother’s day. We found out when we were walking out the door to see her.
VAgirl | May 19th, 2010 at 1:55 pm
a vacuum. seriously?!! he thought cus i use one every day and mine broke that he would surpise me with one. no card, no bow just handed me the vacuum in the box and said here honey i know you need this. seriously men need to learn waht gifting means.
nicole mulvana | April 26th, 2011 at 6:02 pm
This moms day is the worst. They forgot, no biggie. they never remember. But today my Hubby bought a used motorcycle and has spent the day with it. The kiddo spent the day with him and the boob tube. We had, as the love of my life said , why do you want to eat out. There is plenty of leftovers. i got to spend the day communing with dirty dishes, housework, paperwork and getting yelled at because i am crabby…..can we just wipe this day out? i know I am not alone. Let’s just skip the whole thing
Mae | May 8th, 2011 at 9:30 pm
Nothing, not a card or a hug or any kind of acknowledgement. My kids are 7 and 9, so I consider it my husband’s duty to encourage them/remind them to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day. Nothing. They remembered to call his mom to wish her well….while I was sitting there stunned that none of them had anything to say to me.
Yesterday was my anniverary. I got him a card. He forgot.
He can’t seem to figure out why I am in such a bad mood today.
They are all tucked away in bed now while I sit here and read these sad stories with tears streaming down my face. So, if your family forgot you today…Happy Mother’s Day from me.
Kris | May 9th, 2011 at 5:27 am
Girl you have my condolences. I too am setting here wondering why not me. Give yourself a hug.
Mae | May 9th, 2011 at 12:37 pm
ok so mothers day (2011) morning woke up my husband and i and our 3 kids took both our mothers flowers we got home and i was wondering if the hubby had got me anything so i sat patiently waiting to see if anything eventuated and then he said ” i got a card for you but we havent filled it out yet” i thought at least he thought about me as our children are 2, 3 and 6 so hardly old enough to shop for themselves or anything like that and then he said come on lets all go to the markets i thought oh this will be nice he might buy me something nice! once we arrived i stood outside a car gadget shop trying to control 3 restless kids while he bought himself car parts and stickers etc all for his car then we left..and he took us to sit outside a TAB for an hour while he had a bet…i was a little P.O-ed but dealt with it at leasst he got me a card- tired and stressed from our market trip i sat down at home thinking he might help the kids fill out the card as he was doing nothing anyway- but no luck- then he started whinging how he felt like a massage and wondered if he could get a masseus around to give him a massage and this time i was shocked and watched as he put in so much effort to get HIMSElf a massage after i have been complaining of a sore back for the last 2 weeks anyway that has been definatly the worst mothers day -……so far
ps the card is still on top of my fridge not filled out….maybe it willbe good for next year
JACINTA | May 9th, 2011 at 1:40 pm
My husband did NOTHING. Didn’t even say Happy Mothers Day and this is my 12th year being a mom…we have 5 kids! Nothing. His reasoning…he hates mothers day. Made me cry all day and didn’t even apologize for that…..
KRISTYN | May 9th, 2011 at 3:38 pm
Let’s see, on my first mother’s day i got nothing, my husband asked me when i was going back to work. My son was 2 months old. I got nothing on my 2nd. On my third, i took to DH to a card store, he wanted to know why were there, I told him b/c today is mother’s day and your buying me a card. So i did get something. Then this year, i talked to my husband for a solid week about mother’s day, told him to help our son make a card for me. He said sure, so i was really excited. The mother’s day came. He drove all the way to his mothers with DS in tow to give her a mother’s day card, that i made with our son, and then didn’t even acknowledge me. He wanted me to cook supper, and asked me about cleaning before he left (he wanted me to have his work clothes washed) I realized i was getting nothing, when i put DS to bed, and still hadn’t gotten a card, or was even told Happy Mother’s day. I asked him why he hadn’t done a thing or said anything to me, and all he said was “oh, happy mother’s day then” Another great holiday at my house. (My birthday is a week after his, and yet some how he forgets that too)
Tonya | May 9th, 2011 at 4:55 pm
No, I dont think husbands and boyfriends need to give gifts to anyone but their own mothers. On that note, every little thing is appreciated. Please prepare for the “worst mothers day ever” story. this is true, and I am still upset and crying the next day. My son calls his girlfriends mother “mom” in front of me, which hurts. He has spent the past 3-4 mothers day with his girlfriends family. He has never gotten me a mothers day gift, nor has he ever said the words ‘happy mothers day’ to me. This year, the night before mothers day (I guess that’d be Mothers day Eve) he yelled and screamed viciously at me and listed my shortcomings as a human being. I was going in to the kitchen to prepare myself a late, hot meal, and he took his bowl of chicken noodle soup, and spit in it, held it out to me and said “oh, you want a hot meal, well, here you go!” I have not spoken to him since.
iamagreatmom | May 10th, 2011 at 2:40 am
I got a horrible call from my estranged 23 yo son. I was so excited to see on call id that it was him, and on Mother’s Day, since he has carved me out of his life, his wife’s life and that of my unborn grandchild, our first grandbaby. I excitedly picked up the phone and said hello. He said only five words which I think I will never ever forget, “D***, Sh**, B****, A**hole, F***.” I am still so hurt about it. As I get older I wonder if those five horrible words will be the last words I hear from my son on this earth? May you all cherish what you have.
Miriam | May 31st, 2011 at 8:51 am
I’ve never received anything for Mother’s day, our anniversary, or even Valentine’s day. So last year, after I kicked my husband out on the 5th of May, he showed up on Mother’s day to get our daughter. I looked out the window to see that he had a bundle of flowers and balloons, and I thought to myself “He FINALLY thought of me!” But once he got to the door, he was empty handed. The flowers and balloons were for his own mom, paid for out of my money. Needless to say, I didn’t take him back and don’t ever plan on it.
bakalove | January 18th, 2012 at 5:53 pm
My first mothers day I had to work. My boss decided to close up early so she could go to dinner with her kids and I could spend some time with my daughter. I got home to a screaming baby and my boyfriend nowhere near her. I started looking for him only to find him in bed with a chick named Samantha. Turns out she’s the “Sam” person from work he’d been going to the bar with for a guys night. Yup, mothers day has been ruined for me ever since that day.
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