My last post was loosely focused on ways to relax and take care of yourself when you have a little ‘me time’ on your hands, and this time I’d like to talk about a related subject. Namely, how in the NAME OF GOD we can find that elusive ‘me time’ when we’re so busy taking care of kids and earning a living and running errands and trying to keep our households from collapsing into pet-hair-choked ruin?
Before having Riley, I remember enjoying all kinds of free time, time that could be filled with books or matinees or leisurely dinners—or hell, just staring blankly off into space contemplating the mysterious career choices of Samuel Jackson. O, how things have changed. As most of you know, the first thing you jettison when you have a child (well, after “personal dignity” and “toned thighs”) is that whole “doing what you want to do, when you want to do it” thing. It becomes harder and harder to find more than five consecutive minutes to call your own each day when you’ve got 2958185 demands to deal with, and oh my god, it’s not even noon yet.
So, what to do when you’re trying to balance everything in your life, and the scales are off kilter? How do you make room for everything you want to focus on, so you don’t lose sight of some of the—gasp!—non-parenting things that make you happy? How can you carve out time for the hobby you love, the project you’re interested in, the activity you never get to do any more?
It’s a complicated and nearly universal problem for all parents, I think, not just moms. I don’t have any silver-bullet solutions, but I can tell you what’s worked for me:
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