with Sara and Veronica
We're two moms with different backgrounds, jobs and points of view, writing about our opinions on the political and social issues affecting working moms. We'll also keep our eye on the media and the celebrity mom world to highlight issues that are relevant to your life.
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As a vocal feminist mom, I often get questions about what books or toys to buy for children, especially girls. Many moms are leery of all the stuff that’s available and want help navigating the pitfalls. Last year I put together a list of online gifts & non-gifts for budding feminists. But we all know that the smallest of our children are expecting Santa, Hanukkah Harry or Solstice Sabrina (yeah, I just made her up) to bring some actual toys.
While moms are hailing the possibility that this is our last holiday season with Bratz dollz, it doesn’t mean that we are free from dolls that wear stripper wear. Obviously some parents are buying these dolls for their daughters. Why don’t I like them? Well, their attire is my #1 reason. There’s a vicious cycle that I want to see us break that might mean a return to allowing our girls to reclaim their childhood. Clothing in the stores for young girls (pre-school to tween) are sometimes inappropriate. I don’t want my 5-year-old wearing the same clothes my 16-year-old niece wears. That just pushes the 16-year-old to think, “I don’t want to wear baby clothes” and she shops in the college girl section…On and on. If you want to buy a doll, a traditional Barbie is fine. Yes, this feminist says buy the Barbie, as long as she’s dressed appropriately.
While Barbie is still haunted by her tiny waistline, feet that don’t allow her to stand on her own and her anti-math slogan from years ago she looks totally innocent next to Bratz and Barbie Bratz dolls. While I don’t advocate for $100 dolls, American Dolls at least are still keeping in tune with CHILDhood.
I see far too many moms and dads strolling the toy aisles and overhearing their kids ask for this and that. The parents roll their eyes and you can see that they don’t want to buy it for them, but in the basket it goes! Parents it’s ok to just say no! Whether you can’t afford that toy, their room is already overstuffed with toys as my daughter’s is, or you object to a doll that’s wearing what we wore in high school…Just say no.
Use the economy to draw a line in the sand. Whether it is no Bratz doll or setting a budget for each kid, let’s return to some common sense and who is the parent. I know, I know, it’s hard to say no when you’re in the store and you really need to get through the check out lane. There’s no time for a meltdown. My mom had a great way to handle this during some part of the year. She firmly said that no one could buy anything for themselves after Halloween because Santa was coming. No toys, no games and certainly not a new gaming system.
Santa did deliver, not always every one of my wishes, but enough. And he never left me a toy that made me feel like I had to dress a certain way or wish I was 10 years old.
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