Last year for my stepdaughter’s sixth birthday in July, my husband and I bought her a Jessie costume. (If you don’t speak “Disney”, Jessie is the cowgirl from the Toy Story series.) She was absolutely in love with it and insisted on wearing it right then. As she was showing it off, my sister-in-law said, “Hey, you’ve knocked out two birds with one gift! She loves it and she could wear it to trick-or-treat on Halloween!”
“YEAH!” Chloe shouted. “Sammy, can I wear this on Halloween?”
“Of course you can,” I said, smiling. I leaned over to my husband and said, “If we don’t have the kids on Halloween, will you ask their mom if we can take them? We’ve never done trick-or-treating before.” David agreed and I got really excited. YAY Halloween!
But after a few weeks, it didn’t feel right. We’ve never had the kids on Halloween and it felt weird to ask for them on their mom’s night. Sure, it’s a holiday, but it’s not a big deal like Thanksgiving or Christmas. I desperately wanted Halloween memories with them, but what about their other siblings? My stepkids have a sister and brother they create memories with, too. I thought about my own Halloween memories and smile every time. It was always my brother, sister and me with our mom. Always. I couldn’t imagine Chloe and Trey looking back on their Halloweens and seeing them different every year.
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