with Talyaa Liera
I'm Talyaa, the poster child for the concept that there's no one right way to be a parent. I went from stay-at-home attachment-parenting mom of four to being the non-custodial parent, working as a professional writer and channel-psychic. Let's talk about throwing away the parenting manual and exploding the myths and mystique of motherhood!
Check out my personal blog at Juxtapositioning.
Once upon a time in our Mad Men-esque not-too-distant past, a non-traditional family was one where the mother worked outside the home. Later, bucking tradition meant single professional women having children, a la Murphy Brown, alone and husbandless (anyone remember Dan Quayle? Anyone?). Who needs a bicycle when you’re a fish, anyway?
Where is the traditional North American family headed now? Does your family fit the norm? Do you care if it does?
My situation is admittedly non-traditional. Am I alone in my non-tradition? Nope. There are two million non-custodial mothers in the U.S., with no two stories alike.
But this post isn’t about my family, it’s about yours. The New York Times says that despite feelings to the contrary we’re spending more time with our kids now than ever. And that’s quality time in activities like helping with homework and playing backyard catch. Memory-making time.
Couple that wee factoid with the facts that we’re sick of Jon and Kate’s endless bickering (not to mention Kate’s robotic performance on DWTS, did you see that?) and that we yawn over “news” that Michelle Duggar is leaving the hospital with her gazillionth child, and it clearly shows where we are pointing as the Family Of The Future.
- Families will get smaller. Four kids is a litter, and in the future we won’t be having four anymore. (I have four. I am obsolete.)
- Families will become tighter. Take old-style Family Game Night and add it to old-style The Family Bed and you get families who actually know one another. No more eating standing up in front of the microwave or on the way to soccer/ballet/cello/SAT prep. The family of the 2020’s (that sounds so weird, but it’s only ten years away so get ready) will, I dunno, talk to each other. Maybe via the Facepad (iPad + Facebook), but whatever. It’s talking.
- Kids will take back their freedoms. Remember the days when you could just wander around with a snaggle of seventh-graders for a summer afternoon? You were too young to work and old enough that you knew where the key was hidden in the backyard rain downspout (oops, I’ve just outed my family’s hiding place) in case you got locked out. You could operate a microwave and you knew where the TV remote was. What more could you want? Kids now are way too supervised (or way under-supervised, but that’s a whole different post). In the future we’ll turn the tables again and see where helicopter parenting went wrong.
What are your predictions for the future of the family? How closely does yours resemble that now?
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